I recently moved to the us and as a single guy am striving hard to be a good future-husband and future-parent. Trying my best to improve my credit score, save the most of my salary and being fit and positive in general. I wish to know how women engineers choose spouses as part of the typical Indian arranged marriage situation. What are some things I wish I had known for successful courtship and eventually married life? For the uninitiated, arranged marriage is a big deal for orthodox Indian communities and I observe that women are typically granted more freedom and flexibility in this ‘social experiment’.
Nice try getting chicks on blind. Now go back to India and ask your parents for arranged marriage.
“my people back home think this country is a clusterfuck”. Yet you are here!
Don’t mind OP, he seems to be really depressed. I guess his failure to find a partner so far is largely due to his inability to deal with anything which isn’t what he wants.
It is a nightmare situation.
Would be great if you can unpack this for the ppl
Arranged = forced. Not sure why that’s allowed in any civilized country. 🍆
What do you mean by “ I observe that women are typically granted more freedom and flexibility in this ‘social experiment” ?
they have the problem of plenty, esp the more successful ones.
I am a decent looking Indian software engineer( I am getting decent pay at Facebook , people in India think I am successful) I had really tough time finding partner with arranged marriage. Reason being: 1. A guy who is equally successful/ more successful than me - don’t care about his wife success .They care to have beautiful wife. 2. A guy who is not as successful as me , don’t want to marry me because his male ego would be hurt when a wife earns more than him 3. Indian mother in laws , don’t want an educated / successful women because - she can not ask for dowry with pride - she can’t humiliate her DIL or her family as educated daughter in law has developed some individuality and will respond back instead of silently accepting the humiliation ) - daughter in law won’t matc their ideal characteristics ( waking up early , cleaning house , doing Pooja, prepare breakfast , wake up husband , prepare fresh lunch abd pack , evening snacks , fresh dinner again and regular video calls The only set of families who were interested in me are the ones who want to get into United’s states ( considering me as away to get into Usa) Bottom line , in arranged marriage being successful women is a negative attribute and we need to pay for it till society understands gender equality!!
I see you talking all about what women should get from you, how much you supplicate to them, and nothing about what you want in return. Perhaps, if you knew what you wanted it would be easier to figure out how to get it?
MP3 — I made it clear in the question. Successful courtship leading to marriage.
I mean qualities of a woman like kindness, education, etc. I assume you want more than her simply existing? You’re telling me: I want a fruit. And I’m asking you if you want an orange, a banana or a pineapple. And knowing which fruit you want will make it possible and easier to get it as you won’t go looking for bananas on an apple tree.
Are you looking for sex or just a social experiments ??
What do you mean? I mentioned what I want clearly in the post
Yes, you want someone to marry you because you are working on being a good future husband by improving your credit score and saving account and you wonder why you are having such a hard time.
If you loose your visa you will be kicked out of this country !! And cultural differences exist !! I ahve seen men discriminate women who are sexually active as unfit to be marriage material (I have close indian friends) also if you are from the south you want your girl to be petite and skin colored white !!
OP, why tag Infosys, Tata and Accenture?
Because I am from one of them. Clearly my standards are different.
Thought so. Raise your standards!
You forgot to tag @Wipro, OP 😂😂😂
While you are at it just add Cognizant, MindTree too. Will improve your chances to find a girl working in some consultancy company onsite.
Yay, body shop for a reason right??
TIL Indians are racist mofos. If this was a white southern dude saying he wanted to meet successful white southern women who don’t live in a trailer, he’d get his @$$ nuked. 😎
And how did you learn that?
White Southern dudes have had a lot of fun in the past few centuries. Tbh, some Indian mofos too — raping and misbehaving with women. It’s time we move over these tools. But first, we need some education on racism.
What are you trying to ask? The whole paragraph doesn’t make any sense to me.
He wants to know how woman think
Amen