Shout-out to who preaches "go out, meet new people"

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Noob26

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Dec 12, 2020 22 Comments

How exactly do you go out and meet new people?
Do you just start conversation with random people in a coffee shop, street? Do people respond and why do they? More importantly how do you find the energy and confidence to do so?

I can't fathom the possibility of gathering that level of power to do so. Tried plenty of time, but apparently haven't worked out at all. I guess I will go back to leetcode, that seems to be more fun.

P.S. : I am genuinely curious.
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  • Red Hat
    C. Leclerc

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    C. Leclerc
    What they really mean is get on dating apps or seek hobbies that involve meeting or being with people.

    It’s Covid time, so calm your ponies.

    If you’re a 10 they themselves will come and talk to you, even the ones that are taken, some might hook you up with their BFFs, girls like hooking people up. 🤷🏻‍♂️
    Dec 12, 2020 2
    • Google / Eng
      Noob26

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      OP
      Well..if I was a 10 why would I be asking this. This is not an anime.
      Dec 12, 2020
    • Red Hat
      C. Leclerc

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      C. Leclerc
      Well, if you’re not a 10, then maybe work on yourself, read personality and fitness, and then approach people in the ways that were mentioned before?

      You need to feel confident of yourself first, you need not be a 10. Become the best version of yourself whatever you think that is and then see approaching women as applying for jobs. Just don’t creep them out, you just need one offer! 😎

      If you’re a nice guy, I’d give you more tips IRL, but I have no meeting people from blind policy. Good luck!
      Dec 12, 2020
  • HSBC
    mayihelpu

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    mayihelpu
    1. Meetup

    2. Expect that they will not respond. If they do, great!
    If not, u were not expecting it anyway.

    3. Do not look awkward even if u r feeling awkward.

    4. Try doing this in parties with a friend's friend(who is a stranger to you).
    Dec 12, 2020 2
  • New
    hiOnGFuel

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    hiOnGFuel
    Know how to approach people. You see a fine lady, you approach her and genuinely complement her in a respectful and non-sexual way. You strike a conversation depending on how she responds. The first step is to aim for genuine friendship. If you notice she’s not interested or she explicitly says so, immediately back off.

    If it doesn’t work, try again with someone different next time. Go with your instincts.

    Provided you take care of yourself, smell good, look healthy and tidy, you’re good.

    There’s no point in being scared of approaching people chilling in public places, you have nothing to lose.

    Develop an IDGAF attitude and you’d go places.

    Keep doing it and you’d build confidence. AFAIK, women agree confidence is sexy.
    Dec 12, 2020 2
    • Red Hat
      C. Leclerc

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      C. Leclerc
      ^ all true. Just don’t get punched in the face.
      Dec 12, 2020
    • New
      hiOnGFuel

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      hiOnGFuel
      Lol provided you back off when you’re told or when you notice she’s not interested, you won’t have issues.
      Dec 12, 2020
  • Read "the game". It might sound crazy, but it works sometimes
    Dec 12, 2020 2
  • Tableau / Product
    v2rjlm0

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    v2rjlm0
    This is not smart in covid era. Check back in 8-12 months
    Dec 12, 2020 0