Manager gave this to me after we spoke about me being harassed by a male team member (I have not filed any official report, but it was noticed by him and others and thus, a conversation was necessary).
Some lessons, and maybe insight into the manager’s thought process:
Being a woman in tech == being a nonconforming sparrow.
Harassment situation is warm manure that I should be happy to be in.
The harasser is not my enemy and the manure is supposed to make me warm and happy and able to breathe? Like it is protecting me in some way that I’m not aware of.
The manager might get me out of this shit but he’s not my friend. (This is actually a real lesson).
If you’re warm and happy in a pile of shit, keep your mouth shut. (if being in this situation made me warm and happy, I suppose I would’ve rejected having the conversation, i.e. kept my mouth shut).
I genuinely think he was trying to be helpful...
- Masimo str1. Report
3. Bonus: tell this story to HR(manager)
Out of curiosity: Do you agree that you are nonconforming?