Personal situation after accepting offer

Jan 24, 2019 13 Comments

I accepted a job offer and the new company waited for about 45 days inorder to on-board me. Now, I have a personal situation that I need to take care of my father who needs to go through a major surgery. My current employer has better family leave policy and it's better for me to stick with them until I take care of my father who needs personal attention for about 2 months. I am feeling very bad about communicating this over to new employer that I cannot join and instead its better for me to stick with my employer but I dont want them to feel bad as they waited for about 45 days. Need help and please advice?

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  • Adobe kXNI37
    You only have one father other jobs will come. It’s all about priorities
    Jan 24, 2019 1
    • New / Eng 👑kong
      ^This. Go be with ur family...
      Jan 24, 2019
  • Google stark12vv
    Can you not tell them this and ask to delay joining date by 30-45 days?
    Jan 24, 2019 1
    • Nike yubcgsD
      OP
      Ok thanks for your advice
      Jan 24, 2019
  • Oracle redvsblue
    No if your employer cares about you as an employee, they will wait for your family emergency. If they’ll wait for H1B visa lottery and extend offers for 6 months or some crap, why not for a family emergency?? It’s a good reason.
    Jan 24, 2019 0
  • Paychex cout
    If they are reasonable they should be on your side. It’s better to delay joining than start then leave. Just call the recruiter/ manager (depends on your stage) and tell them your situation. 2 months delay is honestly nothing.
    Jan 24, 2019 0
  • Genentech / Eng ratsey
    Does your current employer know you accepted another job?

    Regardless, I’d be upfront and honest with the new company to see if they could accommodate you
    Jan 24, 2019 0
  • New TKpg12
    That's tough, hope it all goes smoothly with your father. Like others says, be upfront and tell them your situation - hopefully they'll be flexible.
    Jan 25, 2019 0
  • OpenTable Meliodas
    I would talk to the new employer. As a former business owner, I would much rather you take leave on someone else’s dime.
    Jan 24, 2019 0
  • Nike yubcgsD
    OP
    I am feeling bad personally that someone ending up in loosing a resource because of my personal situation.
    Jan 24, 2019 1
    • Adobe kXNI37
      See my post
      Jan 24, 2019
  • Nike yubcgsD
    OP
    Thank you one and all for the advice
    Jan 24, 2019 0
  • Nike yubcgsD
    OP
    Ok thank you
    Jan 24, 2019 0

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