A coworker shared sexually intimate details, fetishized a racial group, shared images of woman he had sexual relations with, to me and a new hire. I immediately reported to our manager, who reported it to HR. The coworker in question apparently has been talked to already, and was apparently explicitly told not to talk about of the incident, including apologizing. I found out when I followed up with my manager today. My manager told me that he is on thin ice and knows not to do anything questionable now. I feel like this is an attempt to sweep things under the rug. I’m going to talk to HR personally to find a solution. I’m curious what would be a reasonable ask. #sexualharassment
Ugh. Somewhat depends on how closely you work with this person. If closely I think it’s reasonable to ask to be assigned to a team where your paths won’t cross. IMO though I don’t work in HR, this is potentially grounds for termination.
We definitely work closely, and I really enjoy working with my team. At the same time, several other people on the team have informally voiced complaints about his inappropriate behavior. I don’t think it’s fair I have to accommodate his gross behavior.
Unfortunately, they'd have to file formal complaints in order for anything to happen in terms of relocating or terminating the offending party. HR usually can't/won't make those types of changes without there being lots of documentation that this person is problematic. Otherwise the accused could she the company for wrongful termination and have grounds on which to do so.
If this isn't a fireable behavior at your company, I'd strongly suggest leaving. Culture is what people at the company do, not what they say.
They’re doing an investigation and in this phase, it’s always advised not to talk about it until the investigation is complete.
Interesting how the definition of harassment has evolved in the past 15 years.
Yeah, seems like he just talked too much. I bet it’s “yellow fever”
And there are folks suggesting to quit the company because of some idiot. Very different dynamic these days, I feel like a dinosaur
On one side, I understand your concerns and totally agree with you, kudos to you for speaking up. But on the other hand, just like plenty of other companies, it looks like your employer is not gonna do anything about it, just take care of you and your mental health while fighting this battle. Good luck.
I would connect with hr to ensure you were heard. I would not presume you have any say in corrective action.
Feels like an overreaction. Give people a chance to improve. Walk away from the situations that you are not comfortable with. Why fire a person over this? Doesn't feel like a proportionate punishment.
I am sick of people giving such excuses. When will they fire him? When he will murder or rape someone? By not taking actions, companies imply that it is ok to do inappropriate things because they are not going to take any actions. It motivates people who harass keep harassing and it discourages victims to speak up.
No excuse. The person should definitely be talked to and be suggested the corrective actions for the future. Firing for oversharing is like giving someone the chair for shoplifting.
Were the images explicit or just face pics? What exactly was the harassment part?
What constitutes a solution to you? Figure that out first. Realize HR may disagree on the goal.
Just so you know, you've included enough details to be identified. Seems risky, unless you're not worried about them finding out.
Took out some details. Thanks for tip