My parents asked my salary for an impending job switch. I didn’t feel comfortable sharing 😅 I remember sharing with my parents the offer letter of my first job. Whom do you share your TC with other than blind? Current TC: 180k
Is there some sort of cultural aspect to not sharing TC with your SO where that would actually be acceptable?
If you're not married or discussing marriage, I don't see a need to share with an so.
@Align agree with you, unless the relationship is serious, there is no reason to share
I rarely feel the need to share specifics .. my parents know I make more than 2x what my dad was making and was able to pay cash for my condo. In a long term relationship if my so drops hints about their income ill acknowledge making a bit more, or a lot more, or a little less
Yeah with your SO, as you may have some common long-term goals, there might be necessity to have an idea of each other”s salary and NW to distribute the contributions
When I shared the TC with my parents, they started bragging about it with the neighbors and with their friends even though I told them to stop. I will never share my TC with them again in the future, unless I am getting married.
Haha ya that’s kinda weird
This is something I am afraid of, I am sure they will announce it to extended family. I told my parents that I am happy with the work I’m taking up in the nee job and happy with the salary they’re offering. That’s all they need to know!
I told my parents because I knew they’d be proud. I asked them not to tell other people though.
Second point is super helpful, i only did the first and she ended up telling quite a few people
Good strategy!
No, but then how would you respond if they ask?
Just say no.
That would be rude.
I swear the same thread was posted 2 days ago. Just follow the advice there.
Link?
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Oh for God’s sake - they changed your diapers and now you are not comfortable sharing your salary with them ?? Seriously ? What’s the big deal ? Am sure they will only be proud of you and happy for you ......
Just saying... OP probably has other reasons than just making them proud and happy. For e.g. they have no sense of savings and any additional financial help could lead to more extravagant expenses than savings
Yeah, they will be proud but they might feel entitled to my salary which is why I'd prefer to keep it under wraps. I don't mind sending them some money but telling them the exact numbers could lead to awkward scenarios.
Maybe it’s cultural thing but I cannot imagine why would someone be uncomfortable sharing TC with parents and spouse.
I think it is more of a family thing than a ethnic/demographic culture
You obviously don't have parents who love to brag about your every little thing. Proud of okay, celebration, etc. But my parents' friends have no business knowing my TC in their version of a penis measuring contest.
I think this varies across cultures? OP, where did you grow up? I grew up in the US, and I would describe my parents as upper middle class white folks. Discussing money (in the sense of telling them I am making a lot, thinking that it would make them proud) would be seen as incredibly impolite. I guess the only time I would consider bringing it up is if I was really struggling and needed to ask them for financial help.
Asking them for help financially would also be incredibly embarrassing, but I would do it if I really had to (lost job for a long time, emergency medical bills drained savings, etc)
Sorry did you say you grew up in the US? My parents are just proud when I tell them good news. I dont think your experience is typical.
Share your 800k FAANGMULASS TC with everyone and make sure everyone knows they’re untouchable peasants living in third world poverty compared to you. Then make sure they are not even qualified to lick the toilet you shit in.
Did you have a stroke?
Does your supplier know you've stolen his stash?