Tell me what you think this means -- I'm open to your feedback. :) I've received vague hearsay that I "don't take feedback well." I'm not quite sure what this means. For example, are they saying that I do not implement feedback well? Or are they saying I don't react to feedback well? I've tried to ask for a specific example to better understand, but have not received any. Any thoughts?
Maybe that you get emotional over feedback? I'm just guessing, no accusations, but my first thought why someone would say that is that they take feedback personally. Sometimes its how they perceive it and they need help adjusting their perception. You can help that by modifying your behavior, even if you think you're doing fine already.
Most probably you react badly when someone is providing some feedback. I guess, you start explaining and defending yourself instead of listening.
The other possibility is that they mean you do not act on or apply the feedback.
If they are not providing examples than I wouldn’t think about it. I had something similar happen at my workplace where my manager told me I react when someone says something without thinking or without giving them benefit of doubt. I wasn’t sure what he was talking about, so I asked him twice for examples. He couldn’t think of anything so he told me to forget about it and think as if this discussion never happened. Had it happen in my prev workplace too where my boss told me in review that I speak negatively and I need to improve on it. I asked him on examples and he couldn’t give me any.
I would agree with this. I’ve been told I come across as “bossy” and also “defensive,” but never given any concrete examples or actually helpful feedback. It seems to me this kind of vague feedback says a lot more about the person giving the feedback than the one they are giving it to. If they can’t provide any helpful examples, I’d let it roll off my shoulders.
if i was the boss i wouldn’t give examples because they will just try to argue the examples instead of getting the point. (hence proving the point that they are too defensive)
You may be reacting to the feedback in an off-putting way, regardless of whether you hear it, are listening and act on it. Check out "what got you here won't get you there". Goldsmith discusses this problem at length and provides some useful tools for mitigating potential perception problems.
Best thing I’ve ever done on this topic is read a book called Thanks For The Feedback. Highly recommend.
Good one.
Do you show that you listen to the feedback and are actively changing yohr behavior because of it?
May be you start providing reasons behind your way of doing things (or whatever) when provided with some feedback. Just try to listen to other person and don’t argue or defend your actions.
Guys she is not really taking this well :/
Most likely they mean you don’t react well. Like maybe you get defensive.