Should I have a second kid?

Dec 25, 2021 121 Comments

My 6 year old boy doesn’t want younger siblings, he says they are annoying. My husband kinda wants a girl but he has left the decision to me. I would like a girl but I am not sure I will get one.

I like playing board games with my son or reading. Basically I like to do things with him that I enjoy as well. I avoid the things I don’t enjoy.

My life is quite busy with work, cooking, parenting and trying to stay healthy.
I have so many interests outside of work, I am still figuring out what my passion is, will another kid interfere with that?
Without giving my child a sibling will he have no one now and when he grows up? Am I being selfish?
Also Am I kinda weird that I think of the planet and stop with one kid?

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  • Meta
    riderx

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    riderx
    I was an only child, I don’t feel like I’m missing much. Don’t think you’re being selfish
    Dec 25, 2021 6
  • Your son is young to decide
    Dec 25, 2021 1
    • Atlassian / Eng
      Luffy, M.D

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       Luffy, M.D
      Son doesn't get a vote.

      Both of their pocketbooks and effort got 18+ years and possibly the kids whole life if their luck is bad... Need both parents to say yes for it to be a good idea.
      Dec 26, 2021
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    URAGuy

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    URAGuy
    6 year difference is too wide to be useful or fruitful for either as siblings. You waited too long for that.
    Dec 25, 2021 4
    • Samsung
      ocjk37

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      ocjk37
      I have 10 years difference with my sister. She was one of my favorite people growing up and meant so much to me, and still is now that I am 26.
      Jan 5
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      chubbyFIRE

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      chubbyFIRE
      My spouse’s siblings are 6-7 years apart. They were never close, fought all the time as kids, but do get along nowadays. Honestly I’m kind of sad that they’re not closer. They only call on obligatory birthdays etc.
      Jan 12
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    nfLg87

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    nfLg87
    I don't want to sound too philosophical, but what do you want? As a mother, wife and an individual, I know it gets crazy when you have to do everything to please or help everyone. But girl, I want you to be happy, what will make you happy? Figuring out your passion or having a kid? Kids will leave one day. To be honest, we hang onto them BCS there's nothing more eventful in our lives. We want to live through them, we are selfish, we want to be happy and we choose kids. To see someone who looks kinda like us, grow up so we could be a child again. But this dream shatters when they leave. We are all alone in this whole damn world (even the ones with family and without family). So I would say look out for yourself too. Get a pet or a kid, but find your passion, live your damn life. Don't lose yourself trying to raise a family!
    Dec 25, 2021 6
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      reindere
      @SAP : That’s happening with me right now. How old are you - you sound so wise. Kind of stuff I really wanted to hear.
      Dec 26, 2021
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      nfLg87

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      nfLg87
      Haha, I am in my mid twenties. Thanks for the positive words!
      Dec 26, 2021
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    cgXA03

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    cgXA03
    Acknowledging that two kids are way harder than 1 kid, sometimes I feel like my sister will be the only thing that I have if everything goes wrong in my life one day.
    Dec 25, 2021 2