Single men who moved to NYC
Tell us about ur expectations of nyc before and after moving. The good, the bad, the ugly.
My now husband moved here single and bagged me so I'd say it's a great move ;) Seriously though there are way more single women than men here. You'll be fine.
How'd you meet?
Through the internet back in 08. But not online dating- through a no local message board we were both on. The board organized a happy hour and I met him that day, along with 10 or so other folks who have turned into best friends over the last 12 years. I almost didn't go because I was getting over a cold and not drinking that day and it's crazy to think how different my life would be if I hadn't gone!
I didn't make enough money. Dating in NYC you're usually expected to pick everything up and a LOT of women are serial daters who have adopted it as a lifestyle. Even a ton of my female friends would decide to start dating again and then hit it like looking for a job, queueing up 4 dates a week for a few months and then they'd fuck the whole thing off when they didn't click with anyone. It's pretty bleak if it takes you by surprise, the chances of finding a long term relationship are incredibly slim and if you plan to date traditionally, it's going to get expensive. There are also plenty of women who don't do that, that you might meet at a bar and become close with for a while/have some fun. More chance of getting into something serious that way. Do not go into it with plans or expectations to meet someone for life unless you're in your late 30's and dating in the same range. Only 'date' if you like eating out a lot and have cash to spare.
You will have more sex but you may spend more money to do so.
THERE ARE NO SINGLE GUYS IN MANHATTAN Oh yeah, I know someone who’s “new in town” WHAT ARE THREE OTHER THINGS ABOUT HIM
Good: lots of attractive females Bad: pressure to spend more Ugly: my TC is shit Pretty much in line with expectations. One thing to note is San Francisco draws more tech (aka nerdy) people, so if you're an engineer or similar you might find it takes more effort to find your crowd here.
What do you do at Goldman? Thought you'd be getting gold... Man?
No, GS pay is shit until you're MD, do not work here if you value money in the short term. Applies for all divisions, all roles (except IBD).
Fewer Asian girls wrt SF
Not really lol
Yeah if you're into Asian or Indian girls the Bay Area or LA is your best bet.
Do guys need to pick up the bill on a date, or is go Dutch ok?
If it was set up as a date or via a dating app, it is absolutley expected in NYC that the guy picks up the bill. If you don't like it you don't have to play into it, don't do dinner dates until you're already seeing someone regularly. I've had women blow me off when they found out I had no plans to take them to a fancy restaurant. Better to find out early though.
You pay just for the first date at least. But that's how free dinner works for serial daters. I'm not joking.
So coffee / boba / dessert dates are ok? In SF ppl tend to just do coffee dates, no need to pay for fancy dinner cuz girls gonna walk anyways
Totally fine to suggest - it's the only way to have real dates. Museums and galleries are good options too, if you have opinions about art you can learn a lot about someone from theirs. If you are dating in NYC before long you will meet a girl who replies 'what, no dinner?', and to that you walk away.
That's how dating is supposed to be. You can take them to a fancy restaurant once you are older than 60. No shortage of sugar babies in NYC for the older rich guys. So save your money for later.
Honestly, dating in NYC is not much different than any other big city in North America. Dating apps, smartphones, and social media have changed things permanently. If you're a tech person looking to move here, don't. The work/life balance, weather, living conditions, and TC are overall worse than places like the Bay Area. There is no pot of gold (or honey) at the end of the rainbow. Maybe NYC was better for single men in the 90s and early 2000s, but this has stopped being the case as of the last decade. A lot of this has to do with guys coming here from places like SF thinking their dating life will magically improve, but ironically are making things worse for every guy here. It comes down to this: If you can't meet a girl among the hundreds of thousands or MILLIONS living in the Bay or whatever city you're living in, moving to NYC (which already has a brutal dating scene for the average guy and getting worse every passing day) will not make a difference.
Are you kidding? I moved 2 years ago it's definitely better. The ratio in SF changes womens' attitudes towards men in a bad way.
I mean in bay area everywhere theres more guys and girls, even in dance studios or yoga classes. The only place worse than here are oil rigs in the artic
U prob get laid a lot more if ur a guy