I need suggestions on how to handle this. We are trying every opportunity to get an appointment with a psychiatrist. It has been a big struggle. They are seeing a counselor who recommended seeing a psychiatrist. There are no appointments available for the next few weeks. These are some of the behaviors.
Extremely anxious, worried, and scared to resign from their current job. They believe they own the code they wrote and are responsible for all future maintenance. Their employer can sue if they resign. Their team, manager, and skip are going to find bugs in the code and threaten them to stay and find issues in the code. I tried explaining employment at will. They are not listening and not understanding. They say CEO is going to come after them. Their boss, skip and so many others are going to frame them.
Walking restlessly all waking hours, roaming around the house all the time
Talking to themselves a lot, brushing teeth multiple times during the day, crying, I think slapping themselves(they say they are clapping)
Talking to me nonstop not giving me a break from them, chasing me wherever I am going, and saying they feel like constantly talking.
Till we get an appointment with psychiatrist, is there anything we can try?
Update 1: Thank you all for your inputs and suggestions. They have therapy appointments next week and the following week. I also bought some OTC meds and drinks prescribed here. They are taking those and they are not going into full-blown episodes. I have figured out where to go in case of a psychiatric emergency.
One question they asked me to ask blind: are they responsible for code, and bugs that occur in code after they resign? If not the person who wrote it, who is going to take care of it? What if no one else in the company is knowledgeable about it. I tried explaining a lot and they are not listening to me. I know only a mental health professional can talk through these. In case, you can respond, that will be enormously helpful.
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The tricky part is that you have to find a way to bring them to a doctor as in the US it's on at will basis and people with such symptoms refuse to think they're in trouble.
I plan to use my employer's mental health benefits to get therapy for myself at least so I can take care of myself.
OP, I began breaking with reality a bit over a decade ago after some major life changes and a stressful work environment. I ran out of work and found myself standing on a bridge, ready to jump. I suddenly had the ability to see myself from a more rational perspective and saw that I was not just depressed, that there was something very wrong with my mind. I was paranoid, reactive, suicidal. I was diagnosed with bipolar II and found that I'd had a mixed manic episode. I didn't expect meds to do anything for me but after a month I woke up one morning and it was like someone had reached into my brain and turned down the crazy. I can't even remember how bad it was now.
I think the advice you've gotten to have them evaluated right now at a hospital is a good one. Your partner is almost certain to continue to decline, and the longer it goes on the harder it will be to recover.
I wish you the best, and strength to support your own mental health along with your partner's.
Also, make sure you’re taking care of yourself. It’s hard when someone you love needs you so much and it can be exhausting and draining, and you can’t take care of them if your mental health starts to suffer too. Get some exercise, talk to friends or family, do something that brings you peace.
Best of luck and I hope things get better!