Straight guys, how would you react if your friend suddenly told you he was gay/bi?

Undisclosed trynabgood
Jul 4, 2018 28 Comments

Dudes, what would you do if a guy you became good friends with over the past year, disclosed fears and problems too, travelling together, laughed with, suddenly came out as gay/bi to you? Friend seemed pretty straight, just was never out to others. Friend has never professed any interest in you. Would you feel betrayed that you two shared close emotional moments but your friend never told you? Would you start to hang out with them less? Would your relationship change? Would you start to treat him differently?

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    • Undisclosed trynabgood
      OP
      Were you close friends though or just 'work friends/colleagues'?
      Jul 4, 2018
  • Signifyd Tweener
    I'm a girl and straight. If I had a friend who told me she's lesbian, it's fine as long as she doesn't come on to me xD
    Jul 4, 2018 3
    • Signifyd Tweener
      It's still be okay (yes I'd say no thanks) but it's just weird.
      Jul 4, 2018
    • Microsoft jfjeiwv76
      Why do straight people assume that being gay automatically means you don't have common sense? Gay people don't just randomly try and "come on to you" when they know you're straight. And they don't just randomly hit on their friends out of nowhere. And they aren't automatically attracted to you because you're the same sex.
      Jul 5, 2018
  • Cruise Automation / Eng
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    If it’s not broken it doesn’t have enough features.
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    Why would I care?
    Jul 4, 2018 3
    • Cruise Automation / Eng
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      No because I’m not so full of myself to think every gay person wants to fuck me.
      Jul 4, 2018
    • Apple gYsh65
      Would you think the same of a straight girl? Not everyone wants bone you dude
      Jul 5, 2018
  • Undisclosed nzeN46
    I am gay men and came out to my friends recently. It only made my relationship with them stronger. Don't worry about your friend being interested in you. He only wants to share what's happening in his life with you.
    Jul 4, 2018 0
  • Oath Planted
    No
    Jul 4, 2018 0
  • Expedia LaVie
    If you have a female friend (assuming you are a guy), were you afraid she might be interested in you? If no, it should be the same for gay friend
    Jul 4, 2018 3
    • Expedia LaVie
      Nah, I am a female and I have many male friends whom I am fine traveling together with. They also chatted about emotional stuff with me. I am pretty sure many of my female friends are the same.
      Jul 4, 2018
    • Illumina Illumina
      Same here. I am a straight male and I have straight female friends who I have gone traveling with, just the 2 of us. I honestly never considered that this was weird. Neither of us were interested in anything but a platonic relationship. Heck, I’ve even shared a hotel room with multiple female friends while traveling.
      Jul 5, 2018
  • GoPro arcm85
    If I were your friend and u decided to distance yourself because of this, it would upset me. I’m not sure why u would feel bringing up his sexual preference later in the friendship should alert you. While being straight or lgbtq is a big part of anyone’s lives, it’s not the only thing that ppl connect or relate on. Maybe he never was certain about how u felt on the subject and didn’t want to bring this up until he felt confident in the friendship that you wouldn’t react differently. There’s a good chance he is telling you this now because he may like to keep personal life to those who are close to him and he feels as if you are a good/close friend. I think I would feel honored in your shoe that someone feels open to share this about themselves
    Jul 4, 2018 0
  • Coupang vhmc60
    Show some understanding. Nothing alarming there. She/He is just letting you know.
    Jul 4, 2018 0
  • LinkedIn / Eng YBIv81
    Kind of a strange question, but I'm pleased to see these responses.

    It absolutely should not be a big deal. My friendship with someone is about what kind of person they are, not who they are attracted to.

    In fact it shows that your friend trusts and respects you enough to open up. That's awesome.

    I have a barber who I'm 99% sure is gay. He frequently talks about his roommate, in fact almost everything he talks about involves his roommate, what his roommate did recently, what he bought his roommate for Christmas. Ya know, I don't really care if he's straight or gay. But if he is gay, I wish he were comfortable enough to be out. It makes me sad to think that he has to hide who he is from his clients. If his roommate is his boyfriend, I'd rather he just say so.
    Jul 4, 2018 0
  • Google Mickey
    I'd shrug and ask if he wants help picking out dudes on grindr.
    Jul 5, 2018 0

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