#MeTooJul 4, 2018
Undisclosedtrynabgood

Straight guys, how would you react if your friend suddenly told you he was gay/bi?

Dudes, what would you do if a guy you became good friends with over the past year, disclosed fears and problems too, travelling together, laughed with, suddenly came out as gay/bi to you? Friend seemed pretty straight, just was never out to others. Friend has never professed any interest in you. Would you feel betrayed that you two shared close emotional moments but your friend never told you? Would you start to hang out with them less? Would your relationship change? Would you start to treat him differently?

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Oath Planted Jul 4, 2018

No

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trynabgood OP Jul 4, 2018

Were you close friends though or just 'work friends/colleagues'?

Signifyd Tweener Jul 4, 2018

I'm a girl and straight. If I had a friend who told me she's lesbian, it's fine as long as she doesn't come on to me xD

Amazon fUWV61 Jul 4, 2018

You couldn’t just say no thanks? Why is her being a lesbian a problem if she comes onto you?

Signifyd Tweener Jul 4, 2018

It's still be okay (yes I'd say no thanks) but it's just weird.

EPAM Systems IvPd80 Jul 4, 2018

Broadly speaking it is fine until...

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nzeN46 Jul 4, 2018

I am gay men and came out to my friends recently. It only made my relationship with them stronger. Don't worry about your friend being interested in you. He only wants to share what's happening in his life with you.

LinkedIn YBIv81 Jul 4, 2018

Kind of a strange question, but I'm pleased to see these responses. It absolutely should not be a big deal. My friendship with someone is about what kind of person they are, not who they are attracted to. In fact it shows that your friend trusts and respects you enough to open up. That's awesome. I have a barber who I'm 99% sure is gay. He frequently talks about his roommate, in fact almost everything he talks about involves his roommate, what his roommate did recently, what he bought his roommate for Christmas. Ya know, I don't really care if he's straight or gay. But if he is gay, I wish he were comfortable enough to be out. It makes me sad to think that he has to hide who he is from his clients. If his roommate is his boyfriend, I'd rather he just say so.

Coupang vhmc60 Jul 4, 2018

Show some understanding. Nothing alarming there. She/He is just letting you know.

Expedia LaVie Jul 4, 2018

If you have a female friend (assuming you are a guy), were you afraid she might be interested in you? If no, it should be the same for gay friend

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trynabgood OP Jul 4, 2018

Not sure if that's a perfect comparison. You wouldn't go on a soli non work trip with your female friend, or disclose emotional stuff as a straight guy. Or maybe you would lol

Expedia LaVie Jul 4, 2018

Nah, I am a female and I have many male friends whom I am fine traveling together with. They also chatted about emotional stuff with me. I am pretty sure many of my female friends are the same.

Google Ruthless Jul 4, 2018

'where is the camera?'

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13Jija Jul 4, 2018

Nothing should change. Simple!