Support Asian Parents Provide Adult-Aged Kids in Bay Area
Not to bombard everyone with my life story, but my background is relevant to my inquiry. I was born in rural midwest (Trump land) and raised by a single father on a military income. I have three older sisters so the money was tight. My community was 100 percent white, and everyone was pretty much low to middle-class. Given our money situation, I received zero financial support from my family, but I received an athletic scholarship to attend an average University in the midwest, which I parlayed into a job in tech and an employer-sponsored masters degree at another mid-level University. TC is now $500K+. My wife is Asian (first-generation), and comes from average means, but her parents are overly generous - offering to pay for weddings, houses. Parents funded her education and continue to support her financially despite my telling her not to accept. Her cousins (who work at FB, Google, LinkedIn) all receive this kind of support from their parents. In our Bay Area neighborhood, I noticed a lot of Asian and Indian households depend on their parents for house downpayments, babysitting, cooking, etc. Is this level of support standard in Asian families? I would never think of asking my parents for anything and take pride in being my own man, so being dependant on my parent(s) at 30+ yrs. old is entirely backwards to me. I'm not asking to be a jerk, but rather to gain an understanding of why my wife's parents act as they do. We also have a newborn daughter, and feel her grandparent's generosity will lead her to a very sheltered outlook on life.