Team mate constantly stealing ideas

Oct 28, 2019 379 Comments

I joined as SDE I in a new team but I have worked in the domain for 4 years now. I have a team mate - an SDE II who constantly takes credit for ideas that I brought up during our private discussions. He once over heard my conversation with another engineer about a solution and brought up the exact same solution like he thought of it. He says things only in my manager's presence during scrum. This is the only contribution he makes but talks a lot. Honestly, I think he is just all talk and my manager thinks I should go to him for advice as I am newer to the team. How do I tell my manager or work with such a person but still earn trust? I am tired of saying I thought about this or we talked about that. This is discouraging me from sharing my thoughts and I think this is toxic to my work life and is also affecting my path to a promotion.


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  • New / Eng LQbH86
    Learn from your mistakes? Never trust the same person twice
    Oct 28, 2019 8
    • Google amakk
      Try thinking what would you tell me if this was happening to me?
      Oct 28, 2019
    • Google amakk
      You would say, prove to everyone that the idea is mine.

      Another thing is, ideas are dime a dozen, unless you also dig a little deeper smooth out rough edges and make it more presentable and executable.

      I used to speak out my mind and then regret because after my initial thought everyone would start adding to the discussion.

      My manager suggested that I should think through before speaking, should have considered alternatives, also think about possible blocker and challenges
      Oct 28, 2019
  • Cloudera herder
    Why not telling Your ideas to Your Mgr? If f2f not convenient, then create a sheet/ppt/JiRa Epic , put Your stuff there, even if not mature. Share with stakeholders.
    Oct 28, 2019 1
    • Netflix saw999
      This ^^^
      Oct 28, 2019
  • Intel / Eng Feetcode
    For any good idea that I come up with, I always always always write a one page formal word document describing the idea and its outcome then send the file to the relevant parties. If the idea came about after a meeting with someone always say that : 'name' and I came up with this idea and....

    What is so hard about this? Stop being a push over
    Oct 28, 2019 13
    • New / Eng Xbun83
      Asians are an ethnic minority in the US, but they are the second most overrepresented group in tech behind white males. Not sure why you found that hard to piece together. I sincerely hope you can find Asia on a map. Feel free to consult a dictionary if you continue to struggle with these terms.
      Oct 29, 2019
    • Facebook NMHO62
      The condescension was almost too subtle for me to detect it.
      Oct 30, 2019
  • Intuit vcssggy
    Idea lol? Grow the fk up, use ur 1 on 1 to backstab him/her and start taking other people’s credit too. Use more we in public and pretend to be nice. And as a Swe1, u have couple levels to climb before u even matter, if u are that good do ur own startup
    Oct 28, 2019 7
    • NVIDIA auNag7go
      You know it’s bad when Trump is involved but not Hitler. We need a new version of Godwin’s law.
      Oct 28, 2019
    • Susquehanna International / HR CrackerX
      Trump probably got involved because he is a good example of ideas are worthless, it’s all about execution. That’s why both parties hate him. He is doing the things that other politicians only said they would do. OP should us him as an example. Feel free to talk about problems and work towards fixing them. Just like Trump, there will be people in other groups that try to prevent you from completing your task. But if the change really is good for the country (company) other people in the organization that really care about the companies success will help get obstacles removed. Stop worrying about people stealing your ideas. Just get shit done, people will know who did the work.
      Nov 3, 2019
  • This is the most common thing I’ve ever encountered at work for women and tons of data exist on this topic. Google “Amplifying” and Obama’s cabinet.

    Stealing others ideas is fair play in some circles, so you’d better stop talking. Can I make an observation, though? My guess is You’re telling him to check validity of your ideas instead of taking the risk and going all in with someone who counts, like your manager. Also, call him on this shit. Don’t tattle. Just stop taking it and stop talking to him. Stop giving up so fast and hiding your accomplishments. Your entire career will suffer enormously if you don’t start speaking up to the right people and instantly check this little weasel for his cowardly lack of integrity.
    Oct 28, 2019 10
    • Everything, every freaking thing nowadays is about how woman are being suppressed. Last I checked, the women in my team were enjoying a vacation in Orlando, FL in GHC and then came back asking for promotion since Uber has vowed to have more than 25% women in levels 5A and above.
      Oct 29, 2019
    • This is far from suppression. Reread if necessary.
      Oct 29, 2019
  • Snapchat QaH7er3PxL
    Ideas shouldn't matter for work assessment purposes anyway. It's more about implementation. Especially if u r sde 1, 2, 3. So I would not sweat it. Also importantly it's your job to get along with everyone. Can't stress this enough. That goes doubly for a new person, triply for the most junior. Speaking strictly from the point of view of advancing your own career OP.
    Oct 28, 2019 10
    • What? Lol. This advice is terrible. Ideas do matter. Implementation is easy. The hard part is finding _what_ to implement.
      Oct 29, 2019
    • No man. You are confusing starting a company vs writing code. Writing code is easy. The hard part is figuring out what to write. Coming up with business ideas is easy. The hard part is building a company.
      Oct 30, 2019
  • Autodesk tc_chaser
    Rule #1 of office politics: For things you want to take credit for, have them in written. For things that you want to blame others for, never have anything in written.
    Oct 28, 2019 5
    • PayPal workerB
      In written is the bestest
      Oct 28, 2019
    • Flagged by the community.

  • Microsoft mHwp50
    Communicate and Implement your own ideas!! They will help you learn and grow, as well as help you advance your career. Bring your ideas to the team and your manager instead of taking it to specific people. Take the idea, design it out, maybe create a POC, and THEN present it. This is how the world works. If you don’t take ownership of your own ideas, trust me someone else will. There are plenty of ideas, innovations, and inventions where the person with the original thought is a nobody, while the person who took it and did something with it has gone down in history. Going to your manager is not the solution here, and won’t do much to help you in the long run. Learning from this and taking ownership is the solution.
    Oct 28, 2019 4
    • NVIDIA uUwG82
      This couldn't be more accurate. My managers don't give a fuck when I reported it to them. They still pair me up with this awful person.
      Oct 29, 2019
    • NVIDIA uUwG82
      I recently dumped a load of work on him when he tried to be nosy with my work 😂
      Oct 29, 2019
  • Microsoft avR
    I'm curious what ethnic group is this person from?
    Oct 28, 2019 20
    • Agree! It’s not exclusive to an ethnic group.
      Oct 29, 2019
    • Siemens Healthineers Cap42
      aVR . Such a low life you have dude. Grow up !! It’s 2020.
      Oct 29, 2019
  • HBO / Creative uni3s
    There's a department called human resources for this exact reason. Also fuck that guy, put a laxative in his kambucha...
    Oct 28, 2019 17
    • Teradata / Eng nobody045
      You are not alone. We have such guys here. Just do not have any private technique discussion with such guys. If you have to work with such guys, document any of your ideas online or in emails and include/copy your manager.
      Oct 29, 2019
    • Accenture


      Amazon, Google
      HR will never help, they are there for managers
      Oct 29, 2019


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