Thoughts on quitting before being fired
So this is an observation I’ve had in my career and also prompted by a recent conversation. Many times in my career I’ve seen coworkers get “pushed out” and quit because they feel they’re close to being fired. i have done this once myself and now years later I realize that I probsbly was not even close to being fired, i wasn’t on a PIP and didnt get bad feedback, my relationship with my manager was just strained and could have been repaired if I decided to, but I got scared and wanted a “fresh start.” Somewhere we (especially Americans) got the idea that it is very serious and shameful to be fired, and also that it is much closer to happening than we think.
This can trigger stress and we decide to quit. But the flip side, that I hear, is that aside from FAANG companies, and especially if you’re located in states with strong employee rights, like WA, MA and CA, the firing process is drawn out and unlikely if the company actually knows what it’s doing. Even if given bad feedback, many companies like to move employees to other roles before firing, if its not for cause.
I recently got the advice from someone i trust to basically never quit and make the employer fire you. Continue to try to improve and 99% of the time you’ll be fine. Managers are just posturing they have more power than they actually do. They threaten your career and financial stability. And though HR and Legal almost always support the manager, most will not let someone be fired due to personality differences or low performance that can be improved. The risk is too great. Basically, never quit unless you 100% want to because you got a better job, etc. You have much more control than you’re led to believe.
On Blind I also see all the advice is immediately to start looking for another job, or even quit without a job lined up. I think this is probably stupid and gives the employer so much power due to perceived shame of firing. I’m curious to see what hiring managers and HR think.