Asians: why do you invest so much in your parents?

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Jun 8, 2018 108 Comments

Honestly, considering how much time and energy you put into those relationships, old asian parents better be the happiest people on the planet. Otherwise, why do it?? This is the world's biggest mystery for me.

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  • Juniper / Product
    SkankHnt42

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    whatever we are today, we owe it all to our parents.
    Jun 8, 2018 11
  • How do you think young Asians have what they have today? That’s why.
    Jun 8, 2018 7
    • Workday
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      Thanks, Wert. Were they happy when you were growing up? I'm curious if selflessness generally means putting others first before that
      Jun 9, 2018
    • They were happy giving everything they had for their kids. Sure they had their fights but they still say their happiest days were the ones when we were growing up.
      Jun 9, 2018
  • Because they also invested lots of time and energy in us unlike American parents.
    Jun 8, 2018 10
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    coz in our culture we’re not used to dropping off elders in a nursing home. And we’re not alone. Middle Eastern and Latino cultures share the same practice too.
    Jun 8, 2018 8
    • Twitch
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      On the Chinese side, it’s heavily influenced by Confucianism and the concept of Filial Piety. There’s classic literatures and tales all around Filial Piety. Do a search on filial piety on Amazon, it’s practically all asian or asian american literature.
      Jun 9, 2018
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      Thanks. That explains a lot (read Wikipedia page). Seems like cultural upbringing / programming then and there probably isn't a why.
      Jun 9, 2018
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    We are raised to care about our family, have a lot of respect for our elders, and be grateful for everything they've done for us. Many of us are first or second generation immigrants and realize our parents gave up their entire lives - leaving behind friends, family, and knowing little to no English - to come to America to give us a better head start in life.

    I am by no means a good child to my parents, and developing a deep and meaningful relationship with them that breaks through Asian traditions and boundaries will be a lifelong struggle for me. But I know my parents mean well for me, have been extremely understanding all things considered, and I don't bat an eye to use the luck I've gotten in life to buy them whatever they need to live a comfortable life. It's the least I can do for them.
    Jun 8, 2018 3
    • Uber / Other
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      To be fair I've never attributed my views to being part of my asian culture - I often struggle to relate to it, actually. Sometimes I worry about properly educating my children about asian culture and that maybe our family traditions die with me.

      One of the things I know I need to work on is trying harder to learn more about my family's past. But it can get hard when the day to day already demands so much from me already. It's a bad excuse, I know.
      Jun 9, 2018
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      I think you're fine. My parents wouldn't want me to take a year away from life to study our family history. Sounds like you have some of these values in the background, but they're not running you day to day.
      Jun 9, 2018