When are we thinking about having your first kid/when did you have your first kid?
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How did having a kid affect your career, ambitions, and self development?
Why would you have a kid/why did you have a kid? What was the main reason?
I realize this can be a sensitive subject, and often having a child can change a person’s agency and priorities all together, so let’s all be respectful ☺️
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The slightly negative: your patience will be tested beyond belief - but a strong opportunity for personal growth.
You’ll never sleep the way you used to before a kid, probably for years. The adrenaline rush from knowing a life is in your hands tends to counteract this. And you can assume anyone you work with that has an infant is likely operating at 50% mental capacity on a daily basis at work.
What if I were to say something like “I don’t have kids and hence feel isolated and depressed and suicidal and hence, by extension everybody who is childless is depressed and suicidal.” (I mean if enough people made such sweeping statements, there could be hiring bias even in such scenarios but it is not true for everyone just because it may be true for me, correct ?)
FYI - nobody in my company knew I had a newborn (I interviewed a week after I delivered and decided not to take maternity leave in the new company). When people found out I have a four year old, they asked me how I never mentioned the kid or took a single day off and was so energetic throughout . My point - you didn’t know so you didn’t assume that I was working at diminished capacity… (and I wasn’t !). It appears it is like a confirmation bias more than anything else.
Of course sleep deprivation is real - but again it depends on the kid, the couple, the support system etc