When can we stop chasing more

Apr 1, 2019 26 Comments

5 years ago when I finished my MSCS program. I thought 100k TC is a lot. I accepted an offer with 120k TC. Back at that time I was very happy. I bought a nice car, living in a luxury apartment and working on something I enjoyed.
I said to myself. This is a good life. It would be nice to get a promotion and increase my TC to 200k in 5 years.
I now have a TC of 250k. I have a great WLB. I still enjoy doing my job. I can rest and vest if I want. This is a perfect career plan. And I have most of things I want. I have even two rental properties that generate about 4k a month net income. If I choose to have a humble life I can already FIRE in somewhere cheap like Asia (my home town)
There's seems nothing to keep chasing for. But I still want more. I want more TC even if that means I have to work harder and longer. But I don't really "need" more money. I just like the feel I am making a lot of money and been validated as a socially successful person.
It is actually depressed me a little. Because I can't see an end of this. The feeling of can't stop chasing more. If I ever stoped now, all my friends will be more successful than me over time. I would feel shame if I made less money than my friends. But actually I shouldn't.
I really wish I can feel enough someday.

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  • Facebook / Eng SheepWolf
    Username checks out
    Apr 1, 2019 0
  • Oracle uNTN08
    Looks like you haven't procreated and added to the population. Do that and then talk to us after say 20 years. You will know exactly what you need to do then. Kids+mortgage are an excellent FIRE extinguisher
    Apr 1, 2019 2
    • Capital One / Other xTrb96
      Hah FIRE extinguisher! Totally.
      Apr 1, 2019
    • New / Ops
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      If you want kids, but don't get to have them, it hurts far more than being poor ever will.
      Apr 1, 2019
  • Google / Eng
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    You're experiencing what psychologists call hedonic treadmill. There is no escaping.
    Apr 1, 2019 0
  • New ktFx31
    Buy yourself a golden coffin
    Apr 1, 2019 0
  • New / Ops
    tooQ10

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    You can stop at any time. I'm a non-SWE who went to grad school in the humanities in his spare time. My TC will probably never again hit 50 and I've stopped letting it bother me.
    Apr 1, 2019 0
  • Two Sigma NQwd27
    You should think about what is fulfilling for you that doesn't relate to TC etc. That could manifest itself in volunteerism or hobbies etc. The choice is yours. You're in an enviable position and while it's hard you should try and avoid the keeping up with the Joneses mentality.
    Apr 1, 2019 0
  • Google anons2
    Where do you have two rental properties with that kinda net income ?
    Apr 1, 2019 2
  • JW Player / Other sHkm62
    You will always want more until you experience full blown burnout. It is a terrible state that will make you want to work far less for far less money. It’s not worth it. It is true - the more you make, the more you work. Sad part is, you will always want more til this happens to you.
    Apr 1, 2019 0
  • Google / Product 4pmCoffee
    Maslow hierarchy of needs. Time has come for you to focus on the top of the pyramid!
    Apr 1, 2019 0
  • When you have a child or a dog.
    Apr 1, 2019 0

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