When should I tell my team that my wife’s pregnant?

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For context, I joined a month ago. She’s 2 months in, and we actually found out on the day I joined this company.

Company is based in the Carolinas and focuses on wlb and friendly culture. Very nice people.

When should I inform them about the pregnancy and prep them for the news that I’ll take the 6 months paternity leave starting in November?

Tc like $375k incl paper money

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  • Apple
    PersonID

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    PersonID
    Wait until at least the second trimester
    Apr 6 0
  • Amazon
    ajgoewpfin

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    ajgoewpfin
    Depends. If you think you have any chance of being promoted, hold off as much as possible.
    If you think pregnancy is affecting your performance, sooner is better around 4th month.
    Apr 6 3
    • Amazon
      ajgoewpfin

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      Yeah let them know and in writing.
      A buddy of mine got PIP'ed at Amazon a little while back. He let the company know a about 6 months in, and they had absolutely no mercy on him.

      Fast forward a couple of years he is earning a shit ton of money as a director elsewhere, but yeah... At least you don't work for Amazon
      Apr 6
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      Yeah Amazon has no human element from what I know. I came here from google so I have high demands when it comes to wlb :)

      I’ll do the in writing part. Hadn’t thought about that
      Apr 6
  • Confirm with HR that your are eligible to take parental leave. Some companies have a 1 year minimum service req to take that
    Apr 6 1
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      Good point. Our company doesn’t have that clause anymore.
      Apr 6
  • Do you want to take paternity just after birth? It will be worth to your partner after 3-6 months. Mother is absolutely needed in first 3-6 months.
    Apr 7 2
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      I don’t plan to use all of it immediately. Maybe a month. We have my parents and in laws nearby. Indian family so the societal standard is to be overbearing and take care of
      The grandkids. We have a decent support structure lol
      Apr 7
    • Then why do you even need to mention it early? You can announce when you have a kid. One month or less doesn't need any heads-up.
      Apr 7
  • Amazon
    gtYh235

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    gtYh235
    Wait one more month?
    Apr 6 1
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      Great option. I’m visiting the HQ then too, and can do it in person
      Apr 6