Which girl should I pursue?

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Jan 13, 2019 66 Comments

Met two girls recently (in person, via friends/coworkers, not dating app)

One is new grad (Finance intern): pretty, cute, sweet and bubbly . Kind of fun to hang with, although we usually don’t have a lot of serious stuff to talk about other that the usual events or up coming plans. But we are also in the same community so we hang out a lot. And she’s very sociable and just fun to be around. (TC: probably 100?)

The other is a bit older (mid 20s), SWE at Google. About average looking, not ugly but I never see her wear makeup or dressed up (her usual look is sort of boyish/ preppy), so definitely not the turn-head kind. But she’s mixed race and from Europe so there’s something about her face that I sometimes couldn’t stop staring. Never work with her directly but the team she’s with is one of those super cool ones (that I failed to join), so I’ll say she’s probably pretty smart. She also seems very knowledgeable and well-traveled. Her parents worked for some embassy in Europe so they used to move every three years . We (her, a couple of other people and me) usually get lunch together and I enjoy chatting with her. She’s got this shy/witty humor. But she’s also bit distant and reserved (probably because she’s shy). (TC: probably 200+)

I’m late 20s myself. Sometimes I find myself more attracted to the first girl as i feel at ease and obviously because she’s hot. But she’s just like other girls I’ve dated... I’m not sure how soon I’ll get bored. The second girl is unique - but I always feel nervous and never have the gut to chat with her alone. (She’s not arrogant in anyway, I just feel intimidated for some reason)


Which one would you pick?

(TC: 250)

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  • Oracle chaining/
    If you are typical American millennial, don’t go with the second girl. She is more mature than you and has more life experience. You will be shallow to her pretty quick.
    Jan 13, 2019 8
    • Google / Eng
      blindeer

      Google Eng

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      OP
      Dude, I didn’t include TC orignally - someone asked for it. Dammed if you do, dammed if you don’t!
      Jan 14, 2019
    • Google / Mgmt starlight1
      Good thing you provided, otherwise half the comments here would be TC or GTFO
      Jan 17, 2019
  • Can you get both? Maybe one day and one day
    Jan 13, 2019 3
    • Uber kPCK48
      And the realistic question is can you get either?
      Jan 13, 2019
    • Splunk Ayylmaoo
      If Jeff can do it, so can OP
      Jan 13, 2019
  • Microsoft ЯR
    So the question really is whether or not you'll have guts to proceed with the second girl? Sorry, but the way you described them only highlights the second girl.
    Jan 13, 2019 9
    • Google / Eng
      blindeer

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      OP
      Microsoft, I’m afraid the interviews measured a different set of skills my friend! (p.S can you pick an easier to type name? Just a suggestion)

      Jonmcpop: dude, if she said no, then what? It’d be super awkward from then on for any interaction. Do you honestly think it’s a good idea to risk itv
      Jan 14, 2019
    • Salesforce jonmcpop
      Not with the co worker. With the other one, sure.
      Jan 14, 2019
  • Flagged by the community.

  • Microsoft diva@
    Both the girls sound amazing and deserve somebody better than you. Leave them alone and look somewhere else.
    Jan 13, 2019 8
    • Microsoft diva@
      @blindeer - couple of brownie points for you to boot out @blackbrush. Let me answer your question assuming you are a decent enough person
      1. If you go for the first one - you will always wonder how it would have been with the google girl. You will always compare her and even if she says something intelligent/deep, it won’t be good enough for you because in your mind, the google girl is obviously more mature and intelligent.
      2. If you go for the second - Every time you see better dressed/high energy girl, you will remind yourself that yours is intelligent. But there is always this feeling of your girl lacking in something in your mind. The first girl in money and second one in looks.

      My suggestion is to look for the middle instead of two extremes.

      Now, from girls POV
      1. First girl - why should I be with somebody whose I am not a first choice?

      2. Second girl - why should I be with somebody who isn’t totally satisfied with my looks? Did he marry me for my market value?
      Jan 14, 2019
    • New stuY17
      Wow, way to jump off the assumptions bridge. This is played by every human being on earth, the game of choices and compromises. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the question and you’re projecting some crazy assumptions onto the OP.

      The correct answer is to be open and spend time with both until you make up your mind. By that time it maybe too late, too early, not right or perfect with either one of them. You may find that the second girls personality and depth is far sexier than the looks of the first or that the second is a business genius in the rough. The second might put her finger in your butt while the first one won’t. You should be finding this out right now instead of wasting your time here
      Jan 20, 2019
  • If looking for short term - girl 1 (fun to hang out with, likes to go to events, no serious talks, good looking)
    If looking for long term - girl 2 (serious, mature, smart, almost your age so I would say more compatible) but make sure you are ready for a long term. Also evaluate the risks of dating a co-worker.
    Jan 13, 2019 0
  • Amazon sspps
    OP...you talk about “picking girls” like choosing between two iphone models. Stop objectifying women. How are you so sure the one you “choose” will even like you back.
    Jan 13, 2019 2
    • Google / Eng
      blindeer

      Google Eng

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      OP
      “choosing” which one to pursue/invest in ... how is that objectifying ??
      Jan 14, 2019
    • New stuY17
      😂triggered tubby spotted
      Jan 20, 2019
  • Flagged by the community.

  • Microsoft kikiwi
    Lol I wish at least one of them has Blind and the details you provided are correct. They will make great fun of you for treating them like objects
    Jan 14, 2019 0
  • Oracle purplesox
    Go with the one that swallows.
    Jan 13, 2019 0

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