Wife thinks that lab diamonds are different from normal diamonds.

Nov 29, 2019 75 Comments

Firstly, this isn't about getting my wife a diamond ring and this isn't about the proce of lab diamonds vs natural diamonds.

I'm trying to explain to my wife that lab diamonds and normal diamonds are the same chemically. The chrystal structure is repeated over and over again except for a few sparse places where there are impurities or a few places where the crystal structure is irregular.

She doesn't understand the above language, so I'm trying, and failing, to explain the above to her in different words.

She keeps saying that the two types of diamonds ds come from different places and they are made in different ways, so they are different. She says that there are many types of rice in the world, all of them are rice, but they are different.

How do I explain that diamond isn't like rice? I tried to explain that water is the same, but she says that different waters have different tastes. I told her that it's not the water, but other stuff in the water that gives the different tastes. That's further evidence to her that the waters are different, so the diamonds are different.

Her logic isn't correct but I can't seem to convince her of the truth. It's driving me crazy that I can't explain such a simple concept in a way that she can understand.


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TOP 75 Comments
  • Zymergen / Other aGVa04
    Get yourself a new wife who doesn't insist upon using a cartel that kills children 🙃
    Nov 29, 2019 0
  • LinkedIn WhatSheSad
    Its like fridge ice is the same as cold-night-outside ice
    Nov 29, 2019 5
    • LinkedIn WhatSheSad
      So you just have to freeze water in a container that's well insulated on all sides except the top, and use pure water to begin with
      Dec 2, 2019
    • Amazon


      Just taking it easy
      also you cannot let it to freeze all the way through :)
      Dec 2, 2019
  • Microsoft Gennady
    Women are all the same because they have the same structure.
    Nov 30, 2019 0
  • Tell her: just because you believe something doesn't make it true.
    If she can't understand that objective reality beats her personal feeling then you'll never convince her based on evidence and logic.
    Similar to arguing god's existence to a religions person.
    Nov 29, 2019 9
    • AT&T MsdR32
      I thought capital G was Google
      Nov 30, 2019
    • Deloitte / Data Ceeker
      Y'all are kinda dicky
      Dec 1, 2019
  • LinkedIn WhatSheSad
    Also, the fact that the diamond cartel had to build special test machines to tell the difference tells you people don't distinguish
    Nov 29, 2019 2
    • Twilio lLEv16
      Yeah but not being able to distinguish does not mean they are not different. Even OP admitted that they often have impurities so clearly they are different. And if special machines can tell difference it means they must be different, no?
      Nov 30, 2019
    • LinkedIn WhatSheSad
      The lab ones have far less impurities and inclusions, although later generations started adding those on purpose
      Dec 2, 2019
  • Northrop Grumman wiz🧙🏻‍♂️
    Do you think women like diamonds because of their chemical structure?
    Nov 30, 2019 1
    • Google TC 600K
      Is it better to say that they like them because they were told to like them?
      Nov 30, 2019
  • Google / Eng Melon Usk
    Diamonds are scam. I've never heard anyone resell their diamonds. It has value to the owner, but worthless to other people.
    Nov 30, 2019 1
    • Genentech DyCY55
      Couldn’t agree more. Bought my wife a 20k dollar diamond and had it set in a platinum ring - 20 years ago. I don’t know if anyone would buy it for the same money.
      Dec 1, 2019
  • Square kTtI24
    Synthetic diamonds are generally higher quality and are cheaper. Encourage her to read about it :)
    Nov 29, 2019 0
  • Verizon XbVH67
    The internet is a great place to educate oneself . Ask her to sit down and read. Treating her with disrespect is counterproductive and mean. She needs to be willing to meet you halfway and read about this topic. If she has any questions you might consider a professional jeweler. This way she won't feel as though you were trying to sway her one way or another. You also have to meet her halfway, too. Don't expect her to think exactly the same you do because that will never happen. Be willing to meet somewhere in the middle. This should not be a right or wrong path for either of you. Compromise is an important thing in a marriage. Here's hoping once this is over you can both pick something out together. Good luck.
    Nov 30, 2019 3
    • Verizon XbVH67
      I hear you.... She's got to educate herself and be willing to see the whole picture. Good luck
      Nov 30, 2019
    • AT&T MsdR32
      Unfortunately one political party is trying to destroy objective reality
      Nov 30, 2019
  • Diamonds are a valueless scam that takes advantage of women’s eternal quest for status. They don’t like diamonds for their rarity (diamonds are not rare) nor their beauty (diamonds aren’t particularly pretty) but because a cartel controlled the cost and advertised them as a status symbol. Same cartel is working like crazy to differentiate “cultured” diamonds from natural.

    Your wife comparing it to rice is a tip off. Get ready for status battles forever.

    Nov 30, 2019 2
    • Cisco unit-test
      Some woman hurt you..
      Nov 30, 2019
    • No. I just see the world for what it is.
      Nov 30, 2019


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