Women on Blind, how do you get time to prepare for interviews
I want to start interviewing but I am struggling to find time. Between working, taking care of kids, commuting and managing the house, i have precious little time to prep. I also feel the need for substantial chunks of time (2hrs) to get a feel that i have accomplished/ completed an assignment. It could also be my poor focus, with my mind focused on the 100 odd things that i need to get done and prepping almost seems like a luxury. And following folks posts here, it almost seems very daunting the amount of prep folks are putiting in. P.S. my husband travels a lot and isnt around much to off load my child care (primarily) to him during the week. Weekends are the only time together as family + kids classes.
Pardon my directness, but your husband needs to get his ass home and do his share during the week. You’re describing a life where you function as a working single parent, while he travels and doesn’t have to worry about anything but himself. If only while you job search, he needs to change his priorities.
It sounds like he is out making money, while she is not. Can't see how that's not a sufficient "share".
She has written "between working..." Can't you read?
Can you 'buy' time ? Grocery shopping ? - get home delivery Cleaning up the house ? - hire weekly cleaners Cooking everyday ? - do bulk meal prep to reduce time in cooking Find a time slot when kids are usually sleeping and allocate that to your studying.
Adapt and study in 30 minute bursts. That's closer to interview length anyway.
As said above, your husband needs to start pulling his weight around the house. If he can't spend time sharing your workload (e. g. Demanding job) he needs to start paying for hired help with cleaning, cooking, nanny, etc. I don't see a third option here.
If financially possible, consider talking sabatical for 1-2 months or if you have lot of vacation time left, use that to take 1-2 weeks of chunk. This can do wonders as your sole focus would be interview preperations. I recently cleared interview in almost every company, DM me and happy to help point you at resources if you are in tech job family. Good luck
I feel you. I don’t even want to respond to recruiters these days since I know it is going to involve preparation and I simply don’t think I’ll find the time.
Husband either needs to be home more to take care of responsibilities or spend more to take care of responsibilities. Can't have your cake and eat it. This isn't the 1950's anymore.
I am woman in similar situation. No help from husband for kids care and no help from any one (family far away). Here is what I did which gave me few hours free time to study. 1) stop/reduce cooking as much as possible. find reasonably priced restaurant or home-cooks in neighborhood. 2) I assume your kids are very young, (toddler??) , send kids to daycare where daycare provide food all day. so that will save you from everyday hassle. 3) have my lunch at 11:30 in 15 min and the study for 1 hour in conference room when everyone else is having lunch. 4) eat very less in night, may be just soup and sleep early. This way kids will sleep early too. But because you ate too less, you will wake much earlier. eating more in night increases sleep quota. 5. try yog nidra body scan meditation to further decrease sleep hours ( there are many, may be try https://insighttimer.com/joshuacanter/guided-meditations/body-scan-yoga-nidra-meditation ) 6. Talk less. speaking consume lot of energy. 7. take your vacation time (may be a week) when needed burst study mode. send kids daycare and study all day. 8. Last but not least, don't give up. Try every single day. little improvement is better than none. I know the feeling of juggling everything. Hope this helps sister and things work out for you. Good luck!
Thank you 🙏🏽 this is very helpful
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That’s true, but his job doesn’t give him that flexibility. I definitely push him to do more at home during the weekends
I've been creating assignments and Anki cards for my wife to make her preparation more efficient. But I can work from home often. I guess that helps. But if your husband is often away not sure what to do.. Dump kids to nanny/parents?
I have healthy fear of dumping kids to nannies for extended periods. They make them watch too much TV. In-laws will just give me a guilt trip.
The fear will make you focus more and motivate you to expedite the process. So in a way it’ll be good motivation for you to get through it