RelationshipsMay 30, 2019
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Would you keep dating this girl 3 months in?

Asian girl age 25 with a math background from a top public university. Was an exec for a hedge fund at age 23 and started a company at age 24. Did well at first and then things got rough. She’s not paid herself the last two years, living off of savings from investing and past salary. High risk but well respected in her field and fun personality. Intense at work and loving and compassionate within relationships. She likes her partner to always pay for dates (just her style) and gives in other ways like affection, gifts, loyalty. She looks great on paper but you find out she has $10K in credit card debt and is currently barely getting by. But she is cool, persistent, strong character, confident, has a high EQ/IQ, and people love and respect her. She loves you like no one else has before. She has huge potential. Would you dump her because of her current financial situation? Would you love her if she failed at everything if she kept trying or would you look for a girl with a better financial situation? Would you consider asking her to live with you without asking for rent money?

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Postmates setamtsoP May 30, 2019

Seems like a keeper. Financial situation might be temporary, personality traits matter more.

Twitch jellybeano May 30, 2019

Financial situation is a reflection of her judgement. Money and kids: always see eye to eye with your partner on these.

Micro Focus chmod777 May 30, 2019

Well, she definitely shouldn’t be dating a guy like you

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HDCT OP May 30, 2019

Whynot

Intel McComic May 30, 2019

Because you are so much into titles and $$.

Booking.com m87hj0v May 30, 2019

"Asian girl [...]" Yes.

Facebook ⭕w⭕ May 30, 2019

"girl" yes.

Twitter chutya May 30, 2019

Keepher

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jGGW76 May 30, 2019

It’s shitty to even consider not dating someone because they are going through a rough time financially.

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HDCT OP May 30, 2019

Is it too much if I ask her to move in with me and I will support her, knowing very well she can and has supported herself?

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jGGW76 May 30, 2019

I’m confused. Your original post asks if you should even date her. Now you’re considering asking her to move in? Are you currently dating her? Living with someone is a huge deal and shouldn’t be taken lightly or entered into with someone you barely know.

Intel LvOT55 May 30, 2019

10k is PENNIES! she could pay that off with a sign on bonus if she decided to get a job. Although, if she's been living on savings and investments, why does she have credit card debt? What's her lifestyle like? Given her situation she really shouldn't have debt like that barring any like medical expenses or something drastic

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HDCT OP May 30, 2019

Well, the company is running out of money and things needed to get paid so, along with her cofounders, she floated it. She was depressed for a little bit before me. Obviously she’s working on pivoting and either raising more or starting another company. She lives extremely lean and never asks for expensive things from me even though she likes her partners to pay for the dates. She told me she didn’t care if it costs nothing but that it was pure quality time.

Microsoft idknbd May 30, 2019

lol at Intel thinking most industries offer sign on bonuses

Rally Health FuPayMe$$$ May 30, 2019

If that isn’t a keeper then I don’t know what is.

Oracle alwzangry May 30, 2019

She might be fun for dating, but you will have to ask her about LTR. She probably isn't going to marry or start a family in the foreseeable future. It will ruin her focus.

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HDCT OP May 30, 2019

I’m age 26. Me neither. But I want to be together. Timing may be off but I also don’t want to lose her or abandon her in this rough time. A part of me wants to ask her to live with me.

Oracle alwzangry May 30, 2019

Then, if you have chemistry, why hesitate? You need to have a stronger mind, like hers.

Cloudera ಠ╭╮ಠ May 30, 2019

Wasn't this just posted and deleted from the woman's perspective

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HDCT OP May 30, 2019

Yes because at first I didn’t want to sound like an asshole but realized I’d get more honest answers with my perspective.

Citibank noisyedge May 30, 2019

Hope she's not on here...

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Bazzingaa May 30, 2019

She shouldn’t be with someone like you. Obviously the bottom line is what matters the most for you. She sounds like a good girl