Some of my friends want me to chill out (or even don’t like me cause I put them under some pressure to work more: I come to my desk before them in the morning (and leave after them as well), Personally I think they won’t get return offers and I won’t meet them in my life at all, so who cares what they think about me, right? If you’re a host at fb, does it make sense as well?
Why does this have anything to do with how much they work at all? Isn’t that better for you?
I feel like I miss out on the opportunity to make friends among the interns (but in fact most of them are not that strong and hard working, though).
I don’t think you’d burn a bridge by just focusing on work. Just don’t be an ass to them and you’d be fine. I don’t see any need to make friends there. I didn’t during my internship.
People would honestly prefer co-workers who don't burn out and work smart rather than someone who sets an untenable culture. Do what works for you but do it smart
Someone jogging for an hour daily wouldn't be considered unhealthy. Hitting the gym a couple hours daily wouldn't automatically label someone weak. Playing guitar... Painting... Volunteering... Some things come out of passion rather than weakness. It is possible that passion and work spaces intersect for some folks. It could also be coming out of ambition. It could come out of natural inclination. There's a reason not everyone is an exact copy of you. Each person will make his/her own decisions. What others prefer comes secondary.
Also be aware strong a top rating will involve a lot of factors outside of hours of work, like luck and manager disposition. Personally I’d put in 50 hours or so and whatever I can get with that should be enough. The ROI for working long hours is often not there.
Exactly. If you take the bonus and divide by the number of hours worked over 40 per week, compared to your salary divided by 2050, it's almost never a good value proposition. But people do it all the time so OP is not unique.
Agreed. I worked super hard and didn't get the 100k bonus. Was not worth it
Part of being an intern is also making friends and enjoying life. But don't listen to me, I haven't been an intern. As an FTE, though, I'd rather work with somebody who works hard and smart during the day, but doesn't create a culture of always-on work-nights-and-weekends atmosphere. Not everybody can do that (people with kids, people with spouses, people who care about having a social life), nor should they. Having a person on the team who does that is usually not cool.
Screw everyone in this thread. When I was a fb intern I worked 7 days a week 13 hours on weekdays and probably 5 on weekends. Who cares it’s only 3 months and you lock in 100 grand bonus
Remind them that's why there are actually rankings when it comes to perf time. You think people who are getting Meets Expectations are telling the Exceeds people to slow down for their sakes? Lol. Any intern colleagues who are asking you this are NOT worth cultivating for your future network. If they think like this now, its not gonna get any easier for them in the future. You do what feels right to You.
Make better friends that encourage you
Totally agree. So they don’t like you because you’re a hard worker and make them look bad by comparison? Tough shit. Note their top concern is with themselves. They aren’t your friends. A true friend would admire you for your strengths and only wish you the best.
It's OK to be passionate about your work but don't treat others as less worthy if they aren't. The cliche is true: Silicon Valley is a small place. And you dont know how many of them are wildly talented making 2x your impact in 0.5x the time.
But also don’t let people with less ambition make you feel bad because you have ambition.
Out of all the things you could be donating your time to – community building, open source, charity, the arts – you choose to donate it towards making billionaires richer.
Why burn bridges?
They straight away told me I work too much and it put them in a awkward position, I was like ‘err, you know, it’s my choice’. They wanna be trendy and post some selfies here and there, I only care about the offer 😐
Yeah you may very well be better then them but you shouldn’t assume you’re never going to cross paths again