Regretting having kid

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dljnhbbvv

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 dljnhbbvv
Jan 15 223 Comments

We are regretting having kid. He is 2 years old now and we can’t wait for him to go to college already.

Before having kid, we used to travel a lot and have lot of fun. We used to have so much time for ourselves. But now everything is about him. Sometimes we feel we rushed into having kid without giving any thought. Because of society/parents pressure?

Any other couple in the same boat?

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  • VMware / Eng
    BePresent!

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     BePresent!
    What is your age?
    Jan 15 19
    • Pearson
      user009d

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      user009d
      But it’s much better than having a kid and then regretting it, Mr OP.
      Jan 16
    • LinkedIn
      dsa_is_har

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      dsa_is_har
      Just trying to help you see `maybe` the bright side. Hopefully at 50 - 60 years old you'll be glad to see your kid graduate college or do things and become a young adult. Depends on the person, lifestyle, and culture. I can understand both sides.

      Personally, I'm not having a kid until I'm at least age 35+. Might not even have one to be honest. And going to hire a caretaker for most of the time if I choose to.
      Jan 16
  • Keep focusing on your TC, money solves all problems. Buy him a nanny and then private school, take business trips, find him unsufferable as a young adult when he’s immature but he’s really just acting out because he wants mommy and daddy’s love, have an existential crisis when you realize you’re rich but all your “friends” and “family” don’t care to help you when you start having trouble walking up the stairs and going to the bathroom on your own and you don’t get how you succeeded at everything you were supposed to do and ended up so unhappy.
    Jan 15 6
    • UiPath
      weBI82

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      weBI82
      The mindset of having kids just so you can guilt them into being your slaves when you're old is crazy. You know what you could do instead of forcing your kids to haul you up the stairs and wipe your shit? Not have kids and use the $1mil+ of extra wealth you'll have at that point because of it to pay someone else to do your biatch work.

      You should have kids because you want to have kids, not because it's your idea of elder care planning.
      Jan 15

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  • Meta
    Libb

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    Libb
    i feel sorry for your child. We had our first when we were 29. Never regret our precious time with them. I get sad thinking about the day they’ll leave our house
    Jan 15 7
    • Meta
      Libb

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      Libb
      there’s no trick. you either love your child or you don’t. you don’t post about not enjoying life with your 2 year old.

      if you do, you should seek mental help and possibly give the child to another caretaker because the situation won’t get better

      it’s not a dimension you improve for the next PSC
      Jan 15
    • eBay
      HWfw17

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      HWfw17
      We have two kids, and I keep anxiety when they would leave me and go to college. Just keep thinking we might have one more just so that they stay home a bit more.
      Jan 15
  • Siemens
    Choi net

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    Choi net
    You sound extremely self centered. You’re probably right- you shouldn’t have had a child. But now that you do, learn to love and support your child so they grow up to be a happy, productive member of society.
    Jan 15 5
    • Meta
      phoric

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      phoric
      So you decided to make an argument to rebuff an argument I didn’t make? Nice try @GS. Whether having a child is selfish or not isn’t the point being made. The point is that once the choice has been made it has to be owned. So as @Siemens said, now that the child is here the parents need to love and support them so they become a happy, productive member of society
      Jan 15
    • New
      Aj7ej8

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      Aj7ej8
      Well the world for sure doesn’t need GS employees to leave a legacy 🤧
      Jan 15
  • Airbnb
    dndgh

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    dndgh
    Never Having Kids.
    Jan 15 5
    • Roblox
      mextr

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      mextr
      HQ to YouHold: Do not, I repeat, DO NOT get yourself talked into having kids if you don't absolutely adore the idea. It super hard even for those who love it.

      Caveat, if the GF wants to be a stay at home mum, and fully understands what it means, and if you are OK to have kids where you are there only half-way, it might be "ok-ish". But if you are about to fall in the trap where GF wants kids and you don't, and then you give in and once kid(s) are there she expects you to take half the work and direct responsibility about it... You'll just make both your lives (and kids') miserable. Better run for your life asap.
      Jan 15
    • LinkedIn
      I am a Cat

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      I am a Cat
      Ask your GF if she prefers to have more people living in a smaller home or fewer people living in a nicer home.

      Kids are the most expensive blunder many people can and do commit.
      Feb 20