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Nov 10, 2019 8 Comments

all the TC chasing likely implies you are comparing your fortunes with others.

i am not concerned about TC, i make enough to afford a nice rental in the Bay Area and dont need to think twice before purchasing most things. i am able to offer monetary support to family/friends in need. its all good.

but i do end up comparing myself with others on other things - career, health, having an SO and child. seemingly simple pleasures of talking about your day with the SO or listening to child’s baby talk.

the good part is i dont resent that others have what i dont. but there is a constant “why did life have to turn out like this” refrain in the mind. there are others less fortunate than me, but the tendency is to compare with the oeer group. i wish that would change. we each are blessed in different ways and it is important to remember that always.

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  • Amazon kehrnek
    I feel u. U r not alone
    Nov 10, 2019 0
  • Intel scroll
    Sounds like a serious mid life crisis. I feel for you. I’m not sure I have much advice to offer, but here are my 2 cents. I’d suggest forget about not having SO, and focus instead on your health. Conserve your energy and use it only on activities that make you happy. Same with spending time with only the right people. Many times it is better to be alone rather than being entangled with the wrong ones. Try meditating if you haven’t already, it might help a bit...there are free and paid apps that can help. You are already having the mindset of counting your blessings in the midst of a crisis, it shows you are a thoughtful and kind person. Just continue maintaining the positive attitude as much as you can. Also watch the movie The Secret, it might resonate with you. Wish you all the best.
    Nov 10, 2019 1
    • Apple JxmW82
      OP
      Thank you so much.
      Nov 10, 2019
  • Amazon rice_eater
    How’s your health? And how old are you to think about those kind of things?
    Nov 10, 2019 1
    • Apple JxmW82
      OP
      Health - terminal diagnosis caught very early. Late 30’s.
      Nov 10, 2019
  • Amazon sQFi87
    So u don’t have a SO?
    Nov 10, 2019 1
    • Apple JxmW82
      OP
      It’s not the only thing. Health problems, career, practically every aspect except financial. The point is about the struggle to stay grounded and count our blessings.
      Nov 10, 2019
  • Autodesk leetboba
    Agreed - well said 👌
    Nov 10, 2019 0

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