Backstabbed by coworker

Dec 13, 2018 23 Comments

Manager told me she heard a bad story X about me from a teammate, but that story is quite the contrary to what I did. I explained what happened and sent her all the relevant emails. I was very upset, and I am wondering if

1. I should start looking to change teams
2. I should send an email to the team to tell what really happened. I have a good feeling about who might tell that story, but I don’t want to do name calling

The manager is new though

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  • EMC
    dicpic

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    Tch....tch....tch.... Microsoft and their hiring bar
    Dec 13, 2018 4
  • Cisco
    Trerigd

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    Trerigd
    1. No
    2. No
    Dec 13, 2018 0
  • If someone accuses my directs of something that I don’t have all the information about, I ask them if they’ve shared it with my direct already, listen to what they have to say, and then talk to my direct about it to get their side of the story. Unless there is a trend, I’ll use it as an opportunity to talk about managing perceptions for my direct, and leave the conversation with the information I need to defend them in future discussions.

    You can judge based on the tone of the conversation, but it could have easily been fact finding rather than having their mind made up. Either way, your coworker sucks if they didn’t come to you first.
    Dec 13, 2018 1
  • Google / Eng
    Shaktiman’

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     Shaktiman’
    It is more of a question of who your manager trusts more and who is more important in the team. If your manager already believed what they heard from other colleague, it tells something.

    I have been in the situation, it never ends well. Not only your manager will have suspicions about you forever, but also the person probably don’t like you much and may give you bad feedback later.

    Evaluate if the colleague is higher level, and how much do you stand against them.
    Dec 13, 2018 0
  • Groupon
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    1. Yes
    2. No
    Dec 13, 2018 0