Marrying to increase net worth vs marrying for love
I'm a software engineer working for the Big 4 for some time now and looking to have a good career trajectory. I'm 28 and pretty chill in my life right now . I'll float a question that's been bothering me for some time now.
I feel love is very transitory and I could teach myself to love any girl, if so what should I give more importance when choosing to commit to s person for marriage! (Assuming the candidates are normal, smart and good looking at the same level).
Please help out with your responses
Backstory for this question:
I'm dating these two smart and pretty girls, one of them is an engineer (who could make and stay in low 100ks in her mid career). And on the other hand a doctor girl in her residency (she has a good scope to make higher 200k+ for most of her career). I really like the engineer girl way more than the doctor, but the doctor girl is probably going to be more stable financially for a greater net worth. I'm very much into the engineer girl, but confused who to take more seriously and build the relationship towards marriage.
Ideas appreciated! Thanks
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Make a list of what you would want to change about each potential spouse for you to be happy with that person long term. Maybe these are things like lose weight, focus more on career, have more interest in video games, etc. Now review the list(s). If a list isn't empty, don't marry that person. Most times people won't change--over time these things will grow into resentment and regret.
Eventually you will likely find that no man/woman has an empty list. Still don't compromise. After some soul searching you will hopefully discover that you must change. That is, while you still don't tolerate certain beliefs, behaviors, philosophies, there are some things, that while different that yours, are no more right or wrong.
Now you will still find most lists aren't empty, but there are a few that have nothing that needs changed. Marry one of those people.