TLDR; Im on a team that doesn’t have a lead for the diff workstreams and my manager doesn’t know anything I’m working on so my teammate (same level as me) has been acting like my manager. Teammate has been growing increasingly angry and aggressive about taking on lead responsibilities without the “lead” title which makes me scared to go to them for help and has impacted my productivity. Is this normal?
Joined a team and manager (a PM) knows absolutely nothing about my field of work (and he recently joined too) and the issue is the team has no lead for the diff workstreams. Our team is super random as it is made up of 3 product managers and 2 marketing folks. I have a teammate in my equivalent role (same level) who’s been here for 6+ years. So far, this teammate has been the only one helping me with all the onboarding and he’s clearly pissed off and annoyed with taking on obligations of a lead without the official “lead” title. Nowadays, I’ve been in a tough situation where I’d present my work to my manager and he wouldn’t even know whether it’s good or not so he’d tell me to just go ask my teammate for full feedback and approval. However, my teammate has been growing extremely rude and passive aggressive about having these additional responsibilities, putting me in a really difficult position and often becoming a bottleneck for me to execute on work (that’s starting to impact my mental health and productivity). At this point, my teammate is more like my manager than my actual manager. He has way more understanding and visibility into my work than my own manager does. Will it get better from here? I have another offer and am thinking of taking it (offer is with a manager and team specialized in what I do so at least I’m guaranteed to not go through what I’m going through now). Just hesitant to take it as I’ve only been in my current role for a few months and am afraid how the team will react when I put in my notice. Would love to hear all y’all’s thoughts before I make the decision to jump 🙏🏼 I’m a bit new to industry so maybe this is super common and I’ll have to suck it up and accept that this is life?
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Do not sweat it. Just do your best and be nice to the team mate. You can tell him that you feel caught between a rock and a hard place with no winners in the situation. I would not bring it up to manger and let senior colleague straighten it out.
Only leave if you genuinely want to go to that other place (better pay, better team, better work).
P.S. I have been on the other side as your teammate and mostly I believe your TL is probably not aware how his behaviour impacts others. Also, he probably is an overachiever in this team and expects everyone to be doing same
Next steps: Since you have an offer, you need not worry. Just bring the issue with TL and see how it goes. If not fruitful, bring it up with your manager and hand over the notice