i am a tired software developer mom who codes, cooks and cleans

Oct 23, 2019 45 Comments

i am bored.. i am tired.. life should be more than this! what should i do??


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TOP 45 Comments
  • Roku cruella
    Send children to boarding school.
    Dump husband.
    Quit job.
    Travel to South America.

    Come back post your experience here and thank blind.
    Oct 23, 2019 5
    • Amazon cbaz123
      You have a great talent to write fiction ! Have you considered writing any books
      Oct 24, 2019
    • Roku cruella
      I am in middle of one.
      Writing the book of my life.
      U will know the title from my epitaph.
      Oct 24, 2019
  • Samsung tipsycode
    Better than just cook and clean though... stay positive
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • OP
    Thanks everyone for reaching out.. probably something in the post is misleading. Hubby is good and supportive. No complains about him. Just the sheer amount of work at home and office for both of us is making me tired. I do a lot of household work but he helps too. I guess he probably feels tired too.
    Oct 23, 2019 6
    • Amazon bcif84ju7u
      “He helps”: Wrong mentality. He shouldn’t help, he should do as much as you do or more. Stop making excuses, there is a reason you are overloaded.
      Oct 24, 2019
    • I 100% agree with each of the three comments above.
      Oct 24, 2019
  • Leet more, get more TC, hire people to do cooks and cleans.
    Oct 23, 2019 4
    • OP
      That is a good advice.
      Oct 23, 2019
    • Google obTs71
      We hire cleaner and use HomeChef
      Oct 23, 2019
  • You need to split these responsibilities with your partner. At least in the 50s women didn’t have to work, but it seems you don’t have the best of either world :(

    Make a chore chart if you have disagreements. But since you work full-time, you absolutely need to split everything 50/50. Hell even if you didn’t and were a SAHM, raising kids is tiring as hell and your partner should still help.
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • Amazon cbaz123
    I am a guy and my wife was likely in a similar state as you. I did leetcode, found a job closer to home, cutting down commute time by 1.5hr per day. Now on break between jobs and I have agreed to completely take over the responsibility of cooking, laundry and lawn. I plan to continue the same after I start my new job. Trying to become an instant pot recipe expert. Using apps to simplify grocery shopping, and even get some delivered from whole foods.
    Installed Google tasks, so my wife doesn't have to remind me about tasks which I "forgot".
    Trying to get 45 mins workout for both of us before picking up kid from day care.
    Oct 24, 2019 0
  • American Express D.BCooper
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • NVIDIA needsleeep
    delete facebook, gym up, hit lawyer
    Oct 23, 2019 0
  • Microsoft / Eng kfvvfdsvv
    Divorce your husband. He must take 50% of responsibilities at home. It’s his kid too.
    Oct 23, 2019 1
    • Amazon cbaz123
      Good ! Keep marrying and divorcing for every fixable flaw or mismatched priorities. I am surprised at how casually people throw the word divorce on blind.
      Oct 24, 2019
  • Amazon nfgS13
    1. Find sometime for yourself atleast few days in a week and do whatever you like. It may be reading books, music or art.
    2. Join a gym or yoga class, keep a target and work towards it.
    3. Catch up with your friends for dinner/coffee regularly.
    4. There are so many women in tech groups and events happening around. Attend their events whenever you get some time. You will hear lot of inspiring stories from women who are similar to you.
    5. If household chores are your biggest problem, then schedule a cleaning service every 2 weeks. This helps a lot.
    Oct 23, 2019 0


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