I currently work for a decent fortune 500 company in NYC where I am comfortable and make a decent living. I have offers to work for either amazon or microsoft Seattle but they both require that I relocate. Both offered me about 33% more then my current salary (i estimate 25% more in salary post expenses if i decide to fly back every week, get apartment, car, other expenses, etc.) and similar (possibly lower) title. I am married with young kids (all younger then 8). All of my family, extended family, parents, and friends are here.
Option is I take it and live on my own — commute across the country when I can (thinking fly Sunday night and back Thursday night). Or I pass on this opportunity. They are not flexible with remote or partial remote options (want me in office all the time - very odd but maybe it’s the formal thing to say). Is it worth sacrificing time with family for a great job opportunity? Wife is fine with either option.
Appreciate everyone input who have lived a similar life style. Was commuting worth working for a FAANG - really that awesome? Family sacrifice worth it? This has been causing me some stress as I feel that these opportunities don’t come often and afraid I would regret it if I don’t take it.
- Salesforce JdeF47Let it go. You are in NYC. All the good companies have sizable presence there. What's more, you will get the same salary as you would if you were in bay area. Also, NYC is so much better than Seattle.
- Microsoft / Eng SwiftSocksDon’t relocate for 20%. I don’t think it’s worth it based on your situation. Could you explore NYC-based Amazon teams?
- Microsoft binary10No way.... the move is not worth it. Family first. Stay close to family. Kids are young, it won’t be long before they grow up and then you will regret not being around when they were young. Too much pressure on your spouse. Not worth it.
There are and will be plenty of opportunities in NYC area. Keep looking.
- Don't do it. It's not a once in a lifetime opportunity. Others will come up in the east coast