I’m looking for advices in general for personal developement, which I feel kind of perplex about life after letting go from my ex-employer. a little bit about me: graduated from a top-tier US university. Not a U.S. citizen or PR. From a developing country with worrisome politics. recently got unemployed. father with around 15m $ asset. I’m not a brat. also, kind of tense relationship with him. When I got my first job this year, I realized how minimum the wage is in comparison to my father’s asset. The nature of the work is boring as well. Then, I got kind of disapointed. Without being too careful, I was kind of tricked and then fired. It was actully a high-paid job for new grads. When I took the job, my goals were immigration and demonstrating myself to my family. Now, I’m kind of confused about life. Most of the girls growing up with me seem to have no stress in life, but my family has higher expectation in me. I’d like to be as independent as possible, but I also know that “you cannot get rich by working”. Is there anything else I can do other than seeking employment? From Blind, I get the advices of doing investiment. What would you do if you were me? geniunely looking for advices from peope who are wiser and more experienced with life here :)
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Wait, you actually got fired from Visa?
Seems like there is definitely some bitterness in your emotion towards your family and I assumed that because you mentioned it a couple of times in your post. Family issues often put a blindfold onto people and make them not see what they truly want. I think you are trying to impress your father by getting a high paid job, investing, and getting richer. My question is whether that is what you truly want. I am not talking about cliche "dreams" like becoming a pop star or CEO of a multi-billion dollar company. Is your life really about proving yourself to your family? After you achieve that will you be happier than now? Was the motivation to make decisions your own or was it a mere reaction to your problems? I can't speak for your visa status or your urgency on finding a new job. But I think now is an opportunity to really look inwards and understand yourself. You did not have a good understanding of how you are motivated because at your first job you were clearly demotivated. It will happen again if the mere reason you show up to work is proving yourself to others. I personally am opposed to the idea of mending family problems without giving it a long time. You have carried it for 24 years of your life and it will not go away in a short period of time. You just need to be satisfied with yourself in order for you to have room to understand others. I am not saying you should understand your father now or you ever should try to, but once you have more capacity in your mind you will start to think about things you haven't before, such as being in your father's shoes. This needs time. At the end of the day, If you make yourself happy and motivated and free from obligation to prove something, whatever your family says to you won't hurt you. Once you get there, you will become who you truly are. This is from a random person in the mid-30s. I just wanted to leave a note because I am much happier man than I was 10 years ago.
Wow thank you for the suggestions which is more in-depth than what I’m worrying about right now. Best wishes to you:)
Honestly, if I were you I would first fix my relationship with my family. Not only for the 💰, but other obvious reasons. But since I'm not you, my advice is: 1. If you are passionate about technology / whatever you are working on, try your best and get a better job. There will always be politics and other BS but if you are passionate they will not be THE barrier. 2. If you are not passionate about work, your best bet is to get some money from your family and invest it in the market. In the meantime, get a job and put ur earnings into real estate. Interest from some cash in bank that your father can give you can help partially in living costs. 3. The other risky but only way of truly getting rich is to start a business. But you need your ass covered, so get a job and start a business on the side, no matter how small it is now, you can eventually scale it up 5. Marry rich and chill TC
Thanks :) that’s very comprehensive and thoughtful.
If you are a great person to be around, no. 5 is kinda the best way to do it. You'll be richer than your father's 15m USD asset -- thats HUGE at least from where I come from... I'm 22, my job is so-so... and I DREAM to be someone living in a western country. Its just so difficult for me because of the circumstances. No relatives with Permanent Residency, not highly skilled (Business Degree), etc... I am earning 8k USD a year... horrible. Now I am just focusing on learning how to invest because in the long run, I will win. Its impossible to live in my country working -- the senior mgt life here earns you 70K USD a year with Overtime galore.... What an absolute waste of life. But yes, as echoed by the poster, learn to invest and just try to find your purpose / what makes you tick. Then you will find true happiness... It helps to have some sort of belief system / religion if it makes you sleep well at night.