How to motivate wife to chase more TC?

Jan 19, 2020 106 Comments

Wife keeps saying she is content in her current role but i know she has a lot of potential and can easily hit 250k. She is just taking it easy. I want to motivate her to try for more. I just moved to a new job so can't do anything for few months/1-2 years. Looking for some tips to avoid unnecessary arguments.
My TC: 270k, Wife TC: 120k

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  • New
    Pokémon!

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    Pokémon!
    It’s her own choice, stop thinking that you know better
    Jan 19, 2020 2
    • New
      Pokémon!

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      Ps. If you love worrying about TC worry about your own
      Jan 19, 2020
    • AT&T
      mredtalked

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      mredtalked
      Lol love this second comment.

      I’m assuming you’ve got a pretty high tc, mind if I ask TC/YOE/location and assuming software ? What do you think is a reasonable TC for someone in software to get after 5 years if they are chasing TC?
      Jan 19, 2020
  • Google
    justakid

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    justakid
    She already did chase TC, she married you. Now it’s time to rest and vest.
    Jan 19, 2020 4
  • I’m putting a 1 year over/under on divorce.
    Jan 19, 2020 5
  • Apple
    Biriyani❤️

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    Biriyani❤️
    Exactly in the same boat. I try to show what is out there and that it might be better and more impactful work than what she is doing now ( with similar perks as her current job) .She has finally agreed on starting the prep work and I fully want to support her through the entire process ( I scout for interview questions, patterns, make notes for her to make her job hunt easier).
    Jan 19, 2020 11
    • Facebook
      0078

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      0078
      Thanks for the extra info Biriyani. I volunteer for a DV hotline and so many say that it started out with being pressured on little things to change jobs etc so I jumped the gun. My bad
      Jan 19, 2020
    • Apple
      Biriyani❤️

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      Biriyani❤️
      That is understandable given your experience. I probably should have framed it in a better way.
      Jan 19, 2020
  • Netflix / Eng
    sm314

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    sm314
    I’m in a similar position. My wife has stellar academic and professional credentials, is a recognized expert in her field, has a CV a mile long, and is getting underpaid in a government job.

    The difference is that since she’s happy, I’m happy. Sure, she could earn more, but since we don’t have trouble making ends meet, earning less for the sake of greater job satisfaction is a compromise we’re both happy for her to make.

    Tho admittedly I might have a difference perspective if we were struggling to pay our bills.
    Jan 19, 2020 3