starting a family

New eUJP87
Jan 16 47 Comments

been married for 3 years. wife just turned 30 . i an 32. we are thinking about starting a family .
we sre stil renting living in bay area . savings (non 401k ) stocks and cash about 360k

no other debt . student loans and car paid off .

have been very conflicted about starting a family or making one big hustle for a coupke of years and then stay on one income.

potential tc on one income 220- 300k. its even split for now .

combined tc 300k

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TOP 47 Comments
  • Amazon awspm
    Go for it! You won’t regret it
    Jan 16 0
  • Boeing chodia
    Food for thought: my dad was 42 when I was born... I’m 24 and he’s 66 now. I still want to pursue graduate school, my career etc and aim to settle down in my early 30’s right around where you are. If I started a family at 30, my dad would be 72 which kind of sucks because that’s well into sunset years and who knows how much he will be a part of that. Just something to consider
    Jan 16 6
    • Is this just a Bay Area thing where people think you need to be a millionaire in order to raise a kid? I don't get it at all. 2 percenters thinking they're practically under the poverty line.
      Jan 16
    • Genesys / Creative
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      Deloitte
      washtubmore
      Lol, I think so.
      Jan 16
  • Genesys / Creative
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    Deloitte
    washtubmore
    Plus, if you earn $300T, when you have a kid, you really get the nose for money. You guys will double that income because you will be in “paper chase” mode for real when you have kids. You’ll be like a fucking T-Rex just on the hunt making money, lol. Real talk.
    Jan 16 2
  • Google 4EVR
    If you want to start a family some time, then now is the time. You will thank me later.
    Jan 16 1
    • Amazon zao-an
      Yes. We started late 30s. We’re tired ALL the time.
      And our kid will be in college when we’re ~60.
      Jan 16
  • Facebook sxjj41
    Yeah go for it! You are mostly limited by your wife’s biological clock
    Jan 16 0
  • New WYbD03
    I dunno that's a very little money in Bay area, the day care and all expenses are insane. Maybe move out of state first, call me crazy but raising kids in Bay area is very expensive!
    Jan 16 2
    • Citadel BrutеForce
      You're crazy!
      Jan 16
    • McKinsey mrMiyagi🍆
      It is expensive no doubt, but will motivate you to go after more
      Jan 16
  • McKinsey mrMiyagi🍆
    I had my first when wife was 35.. imo wait no rush in doing early
    Jan 16 5
    • New uHlr41
      That’s where he makes the $$ 😂
      Jan 16
    • McKinsey mrMiyagi🍆
      Cut out pornhub, eat almond soak in water, take l-arginine, chyawanprash, ashwagandha, shilajit, zinc, you will be shooting ropes bro.. rope stack
      Jan 16
  • LinkedIn romba
    Why do you want to have kids? You’ll spend the next decade or two dealing with crying and nagging and driving kids to coaching classes. As opposed to all the exciting things you could be doing with that time and money and energy!
    Jan 16 1
    • Intel hkll
      And there’s so many good TV shows to stream!
      Jan 16
  • New / Product lmr
    Go for it. It is highly recommended that both have stable jobs where you have already put in hours and have credibility so that you can take advantage of much needed flexibility. Don’t delay as kids are a lot of work and need energy not to mention potential risks as you both grow older( difficulty in conceiving, autism, high risk pregnancies etc)
    Jan 19 0
  • Radware beags
    Early 30s is the right time for it IMO. Had your 20s to have fun, and you want to have them early enough so you can enjoy your time with them as adults as well as potential grandchildren. Plus, as others have said it might not happen quickly, so good to give yourself some buffer.
    Jan 16 0

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