Fuck it, me too

Never "publicly" told this story but here goes.

I was a few months out of school in my first job when my manager started doing little things that were making me uncomfortable. They sat too close or insisted that I go to a social event with the team and then corner me away from everyone else to talk.

This escalated gradually over the next few months until they started calling me at night after work. I was on a pretty brutal on call rotation so getting calls or pages late at night was not unusual. I had to answer. After the first call I realized they are calling me to talk and not for work, but what could I do in that situation? I had to answer.

On top of this, I was frequently on the work laptop late at night trying to get ahead and would get messages from them. Over time, these started to become more and more explicit. The phone calls started coming when they were drunk and became my boss trying to get me to talk dirty to them.

After a work event, I stayed too late and they kept buying drinks for me. Drinking with my team seemed safe, but they all left without me seeing. My boss leaned in to kiss me and before I knew it they were too close. I came to my senses and reeled. I reminded them that we we both engaged and I ran out of the bar.

I confided in a co-worker that night but was too scared to do anything about it. After I calmed down the next day I turned on logging on the work chat system to record the late night chats they would send me.

I started asking questions intended to get more direct messages from them on intent, e.g. are you ok having sex with your engaged employee when you're engaged? (Answer: yes)

I endured another couple months of these late night calls waking me up at 2 or 3 in the morning and finally decided to report them. I emailed my skip level manager and showed the evidence to them and watched their eyes open wide in horror. I met with HR the next day and retold the same story.

After about 5 months of constant torture, they fired the bitch. I hope she rots in hell.

I'm a straight, white male. It happens to us too.