My Wife wants a Tesla ...

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metaphoric

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 metaphoric
Jan 21, 2021 1,589 Comments

We’re both early 30s. She’s a stay at home wife (not mom, yet...) and does a few self employed things like tutoring, pays half of most expenses, but big purchases have always been on me.
I drive a 2014 Civic, mind you. She usually ubers or drives the car since I don’t drive it to work. It would be “our” car but she’s heavily been asking for a Tesla, probably because her friends husbands two of them have gotten one.
Is a Tesla a good purchase for a 30 something year old. We currently RENT around 2.5K a month for a 1bdr apt in Sf bay, savings grow by about 10K a month. Soo...we can technically “afford” a car of this kind but...

It’s more like “cool toy” not a necessity.

Would you buy yourself/ wife a Tesla with these specs?? Worth it to keep the wife happy?

TC 220K
Household TC around 300K

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  • Buy it man. Make your wife happy. No point in being the richest person at the graveyard.
    Jan 21, 2021 14
    • AT&T
      johnny_boy

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      johnny_boy
      To the person talking about tesla being safer than 2014 civic. What are you smoking?
      I'll take civic to be safer than tesla on any day of the week!
      Jan 24, 2021
    • Google
      Javatee

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      Javatee
      Happy wife ==happy life, but if you have to keep spending tens of thousands to match what her friend is buy/get ,then keeping her happy may not be sustainable.

      However, it does sound like you may have use for a second car
      Jan 30, 2021
  • Passively encourage your wife to upskill and take a full time job preferably in tech - show her how double income would significantly increase your household TC and provide you more disposable income and spending power. Show her examples of working women in Tech and the financial freedom they enjoy. Since you mentioned you are yet to start a family, your wife has enough time to upskill now, less responsibilities.
    Jan 21, 2021 15
    • VMware
      vmwore

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      vmwore
      But income isn’t the problem, so why is your advice focused on income?
      Jan 25, 2021
    • Income is not the problem, wife’s attitude to imitate the neighbor’s lifestyle is the problem. This has been the major cause of frustration in many families leading to divorce/long term conflicts. To avoid conflicts and unrealistic expectations set by your wife/kids, you have to make it clear from the beginning that you have to earn(understand the value of money and the effort put in to earn money) to own expensive things, else don’t yearn for it.
      Jan 25, 2021
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    BJrG26

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    BJrG26
    I think the big question is why is your wife a stay at home wife? If it's her decision and you'd rather she worked, then point her in the direction of working full time so you can afford one.

    If she is staying at home because this is something you've asked her to do that you're benefitting from (ie she's doing cooking, cleaning, household management so you don't have to) consider the Tesla as a bonus or part of her TC.
    Jan 21, 2021 6

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    • Lol, I'm not in bay area and TC is 450k, doing fine thx.

      Yours is not the attitude of someone who should ever be married, you sound like a real asshole.
      Jan 24, 2021
  • Facebook / Eng
    emOU76

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     emOU76
    Dude if she is pulling in $80K a year she isn't a "stay at home wife"

    What the fuck
    Jan 24, 2021 9
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    TVSE42

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    TVSE42
    Your wife is a gold digger. Don't buy her a tesla. Don't be a simp and put her on a pedastal. That money can be invested , spent in other ways. Materialistic things will never get you satisfaction.
    Jan 23, 2021 9
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      goodJuJuSh

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      goodJuJuSh
      Oops, sorry 8hourwork. Thought you were the OP of the thread. I’m not sure you are using simp correctly though
      Jan 24, 2021
    • Wow good digger is such a wrong term to use here - my wife doesn’t work - I give her everything to make her happy , honestly money is there today or gone tomorrow. So stop making everything about money , money doesn’t buy happiness
      Apr 6, 2021