Just another Indian love marriage post. 28F Indian here, My parents aren’t agreeing to get me married to my boyfriend. I have been trying to convince on and off for 1.5 years now but no luck. My parents are constantly sending me guys profiles in arranged marriage setup and forcing me to choose one among these men and forget my boyfriend. My parents major concern is our astrology didn’t match and caste issues Anyone who faced a similar situation? How did you deal with this? I know people would say leave parents and choose bf. I was to choose my bf too but want my parents approval Any tips or suggestions on how to convince?
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Obey your parents. The boy is probably trouble.
Stand your ground if you're serious about him. They'll eventually give in.
Should I keep rejecting matches giving some reasons till they give in or fight back saying I won’t look for matches in the first place?
This. Me and my girlfriend (we're now married for 7 years) endured this test for 5 years and they eventually gave up. Doesn't matter if you look at matches to reject them or not look at all, just don't give up.
Elope and get married.
Leave him. Your parents showed u the light of this world & ur hurting them. Ur parents r ur God.
> Your parents showed u the light of this world Oh come on. The parents humped for their own pleasure and your dad came. Then they did their duty and raised you. Lets not pretend this was a selfless act on their part.
The selfless act is actually raising the child lovingly and teaching them what's right and what's wrong. If they had done that, they deserve better respect.
I am a man and I hate to say this It is not feasible to consummate a marriage with a person you don't love for a woman (had a female relative in this situation) It is unfair to the man as well (he was blameless and a victim too) Tell your parents this
Are you from different parts of India (north vs south)? That’s usually one reason
We are from south but different states. Language isn’t a major reason. Astrology is their major concern and they are worried a bit about caste differences too
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are ur parents idiots?
This is what everyone who is not Indian reads here. They want to decide on their daughters' fate based on some shamans predictions. Are we in the Stone Age?
This is what most Indians also read here Cruise. A lot of Indian folks are now okay with their kids marrying their boyfriends/girlfriends. Heck even my grandparents generation was okay with this. There are still some parents stuck in the Stone Age, they won’t let their kids be adults. It’s on the kids(these people in their late 20s, early 30s) You are adults for fucks sake, parents will come around - marry who you want.
Wait till 35. They'll give in. Arranged marriage proposals are hot only upto 30.
Seriously? 😐 35 would be too late. We want to start our life soon
This is the worst advice You can't put your life on hold
Get pregnant then they won’t be able to say no
Don’t want to get pregnant before marriage. Any other tried and tested suggestions?
Op you can still tell them you are pregnant. You only need to pretend for a few weeks as they will take the next flight here and get you married right here. No fancy Indian wedding. After that you tell them it was false alarm and you got your period. Report back here if it worked.
Ask his parents to come to see you at your house and let them convince your parents.
He met my mom but still no luck. My parents are not interested to meet his parents at all. Astrology is the primary concern followed my caste
My brother was in the same situation. His GF wanted approval from parents. He waited for 3 years. Finally ended the relationship last month. I feel the decision was on his GF and she was undecisive. You have to choose one some times.