My girlfriend has cheated on me once and I have decided to forgive her for the sake of our marriage. It's been about 2 months since it happened and I'm having second thoughts. I've always heard once a cheater always a cheater. Now I'm afraid it might apply to my wife. She seems like she's trying extremely hard to work for our marriage to make it work. We have ways to go. But I can't stop overthinking about that phrase. It doesn't seem like she would do it again but then again it didn't seem like she would've done it in the first place. But here I am 🧍♂️. What do you feel about this situation?
Your wife probably going to be pissed when she finds out about the girlfriend
It's your fault to be small.
Your name is jiragod, I bet you have the smallest of us all
Nerdy smelly socially awkward engineer detected,,
I think if she proves it to you by going to long-term consistent therapy/spirituality/innerwork the marriage could be salvageable but even then it's a long shot cause she broke your trust But doing nothing and hoping things get better is not a valid strategy
Install a root cert on her phone and laptop, and MITM all of her electronic correspondence. Don’t tell her you’re doing this. Track her messages for a year. Break up if you see any unfaithful messages. Most important: do NOT disclose that you did this, even after the fact. That could cause massive blowback for you. Just do the spying, and come up with some invented reason to break up, but absolutely never admit to the spying.
Or you can just break up and don’t have to deal with this nonsense.
On the wife’s phone or the girlfriend’s phone?
You are the cheater here lmao
Regardless of anything else, if you can't bring yourself to trust her you should GTFO and fast, before kids make everything worse
Are you folks blind !! Amazingly written troll post. So many suckers on this app. Ops the bigger cheater wife and gf are different rofl.
End it, even if she doesn’t ever do it again the trust is over. Whatever you were going into for marriage has already been shattered. She will either feel you married her despite it and do it again and be more careful, or she will repent but you will always doubt her intentions and truth. End it and walk away, peace of mind is the most important.
Break up now.
I think people CAN change, and that most cheaters WANT to change for the better, but ultimately most cheaters are unable to. It’s really hard to look inward and grapple your deepest fears, shames, and vulnerabilities. And it takes a lot of time. I believe it’s not enough for them to work for the relationship. They have to work for themselves and their own healing of all the trauma and baggage that pushed them to do what they did in the first place. You need trust for a relationship to work, so you’ll have to decide if that’s something she can really earn back with you.
Exactly.