My girl and I have been together for about a year. It's still somewhat new and we're learning each other's triggers and how to work through them. Lately I feel like I've been bringing up a lot of when something bothers me or I feel like I'm overthinking. Which my girl says it's fine but then I just feel like I'm causing all these issues and disagreements. Which makes me feel further from her. But then if I hold it in then I don't feel right with myself. It's like a lose-lose. Does anyone else feel this way?
You should voice your concerns but maybe you are just high maintenance.
I am like that with my wife. I tell her what I am going thru where I rhink i screwed up, what i fear. She tells me the same. We r like each others therapist. But cpl of times when our fights got ugly, these innermost thoughts were used against me; and i have done the same. Its not good. But it has happened…. But we have mutually assured destruction. So it balances out
If she’s making you feel guilty for voicing your concerns, then you both have some serious communication issues to work through if you want to make it work. And yes, maybe you’re overthinking, but if that bothers her, that’s also not a great sign.