TL, DR: Friends making fun of new short curly hairstyle, feeling hurt. I'm 30. Have a lot of friends from school in the bay area. I got a haircut last week after nearly 2 decades. I was tired of always worrying that I don't know how to style my extremely curly hair and went for it. I don't think I look amazing or anything but am feeling great about the fact that I did this and am on my way to feeling good about how I look. Everybody at work, and any other interactions I've had, have been nice to me. Even if they didn't compliment the hairstyle, they let me know they noticed and appreciated that I changed my look. However, the people I consider to be my closest friends made so much fun of me that I had to actually shout at them to stop. I don't get why people have to be like this. It's hurtful. I'm all about kindness and never make fun of people. But I'm told I look like Michael Jackson, lol! Some people are in your life for so many years and just take you for granted. TC: 340K YOE: 6
Reconsider ur friends. There are those who take energy away and those who give. U want to be those who give.
Seriously. This is what I've been thinking about all morning. People who have nothing to gain are nice and the people who I help every chance I get, don't want to say a good word.
Have you considered your close friends might just be trying to pull your leg ? Did you ask them to politely stop and that you don't like that. If they didn't stop after that , then yes you may need to revaluate your friendship
If you are happy with it that's all that matters.
Yeap, Iāve changed my hair a few times the past few years and hairstyle changes always seem to be a talking point with people. It doesnāt help thatās when we feel vulnerable as we rebuild that confidence with a new style. Just gotta get used to it, I donāt think they know how hurtful it can be. Soon theyāll get used to your new style and forget how your old one was.
Real friends won't gaslight you. If your haircut is bad, they are going to let you know.
Hate on curly hair is racism too.
Sorry to say this but they are trying to emotionally damage you by knowing your behavior. Tell them there are many more important things in life beyond the hairstyle. You can't control certain things in life. You have to face many more people like them in life. Move on from these toxic friendships if you don't know where to cut them from such bullying
People will spew the most out of pocket garbage about curly hair. Of all races. When I embraced my naturally curly hair, I received compliments from most people but even today some say crap like "have you considered straightening your hair?" Somehow it's an acceptable thing to say. You can't do this with other features - if my retort is ew have you considered plastic surgery for your face? That's considered taboo and rightfully so lol I know so many curly haired people who were taught to hate and never care for their hair. Brush it into a giant poof or straighten it to fit in. I was one of those people. Now I absolutely love my curls they're my favorite feature. What changed? The lens. It's not eurocentric anymore. With your friends too, it's not your hair it's their crappy lens. It is up to you whether this is a dealbreaker for you or you're willing to accept that that's just how they see you. For me, I got rid of people with toxic lenses because if they're willing to distort pretty or neutral features into an ugly thing just to fit their frame of reference and be so loud and vocal about it, I wouldn't value their overall perspective on anything. Everyone's different though.
But I'm a girl and that isn't exactly the look I'm going for š