Fiance's parents are losers
Fiance has a recession-proof job, doesn't make a lot, maybe a little above average, hard worker, all other excellent qualities. But her parents are complete losers. Recently divorced, their entire savings was their house due to housing boom. Mom is living in a one bedroom shithole basement. Dad is living in assisted living shithole apartment. Both have maybe 100k in savings at age 60-70. Worse is her dad is a dumbass. She needs to control every aspect of his finances. Recently, he was chatting with a scammer on whatsapp (he thought it was his "friend"). Fiance yelled at him a couple days before not to talk to people like that. He ended up transferring 10k to the scammer, claiming he 7x his money in one day. No matter what anyone tells him, he won't listen. I'm thinking I may have to support these bums in the future. Fiance doesn't make enough money, and when her dumbass parents run out, their going to run to her (only child). And I'm probably going to have to fund their retirements. What to do? Fiance says she won't help, but I doubt anyone will let their parents go homeless. I also feel terrible if I had kids, since their grandparents would be huge losers. I don't want them involved at all. TC: 350k NW: 2 million Age: 30
Sounds like this goes deeper than money. You clearly don't like them for other reasons with the way you talk about them. You sound like a dick
I don't have any respect for them. They treated their daughter like crap. Selfish, uneducated, degenerates, poor, accomplished nothing in life. Worst qualities of all boomers, and now they make her feel bad to take care of them and visit their bum asses
You sound like a dick. That said youâre marrying her and her family (and all the baggage that comes with it) is now a part of your life - you sound like you donât respect her at a certain level. If this isnât a troll, it sounds like you care more about your money and numbers than the marriage to your wife.
Whereâs the option of âI should dump myselfâ
Get out ASAP
Expand on this Uber, she is a wonderful person, and we have an excellent relationship. I just don't want to become a charity case for bums
Sounds like itâs time to do some soul searching. This isnât even your fiancĂ©e, itâs her parents. Believe it or not, millions of people live without connection to their parents for good reason. Hell, my own parents and their siblings let their parents live in poverty, but my grandparents were abusive and violent. They deserved it.
Her parents were horrible and abusive to her. She doesn't like them. But I'm worried if you're parents are going to go homeless, you aren't going to let them live on the street. That's where I come in, and I don't want to be involved.
Why would they become homeless? Wonât they have social security and other benefits to live off of? You should have this conversation with her. If they were abusive to her, she could totally be okay with them living on the streets.
RunâŠfast If any party comes with a baggage into a relationship, the other party ends up carrying it It doesnt take much for a wonderful person to change and a great relationship turns into hell
thats what im thinking
omg! intel and google - you two are so evil! i think the girl is better off living alone without people like you. In future, if she gets sick, people like you two will dessert her. I wish and pray she gets a really great husband and lives the happiest life for whatâs she has/ is gone through.
So much vitriol on this app, wow
Does she love her parents? You definitely sound like a huge asshole.
Theyâre not going to be around long anyways, who cares
People getting a free paycheck live to 100. It's common knowledge đ
people are living longer nowadays, who knows if they live another 30 years
YTA. Hopefully she dumps you soon, she deserves better, you should like a loser. No matter what those are her parents and they deserve some respect. Your parents are scum of earth if they raised a son like you. Truly terrible people and dumb your parents are. She can dump your ass and find a guy who has morality and ethics and will treat her better, also someone with better TC and NW is easier to find in the valley for girls.
They are not his parents and he has every right to choose the family he is marrying into. Would you be okay marrying into a drug addict or criminal family? Itâs the same principle. Itâs perfectly okay to enforce your standards and needs before you get married. If you are not okay marrying a poor guy, thatâs perfectly okay. Sucks to be poor but you canât blame the other party for not having morality.
She should dump you
I'll be relieved
You're giving Patrick Bateman vibes here. I'm pretty sure you might have bodies in the basement and she should run.