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I am currently subletting a room in NY for $800 a month in a 3bed, 1.5bath apartment, all inclusive. Based on what I’ve been told, the entire apartment rents for $2500. Other than the room that I’m subleasing, my lessor practically occupies every last remaining space in the apartment which I don’t really mind. I spend roughly 95% of the time in my room, the remaining 5% split between the bathroom and kitchen. I don’t have any major electronics asides from two laptops, my phone, a standing fan and a small space heater that I only recently purchased. I hardly ever use the space heater, and even when I do, it’s only on for a few minutes before I turn it off. In the summer, I talked to my lessor about me using an AC. I understood that the electric bill was going to go up and I was more than happy to pay the additional $100 per month that they billed me. Now that we are back to the colder months, naturally I assumed that I would go back to my previous rent and which is what I paid this month. I heard no complaints until today. They complained about receiving a much higher bill than they were used to receiving in the winter and practically accused me of being the cause. It felt more like an accusation/attack than a conversation. It made me feel so small the way they had talked to me. My lessor and I get along well on most days but it’s not the first time they would talk to me in this manner. (The first time they had treated me in a similar manner, I withdrew from them, they noticed, we talked about it and they apologized)… They are planning to make a big purchase soon and are probably stressed about money. I empathize with them but I don’t need/want them taking out their frustration or stress on me. Anyways, I haven’t been able to shake off the way they spoke to me and just wanted to write it out somewhere so I can process my feelings. I have anxiety and if I withdraw again, I am almost certain they will complain. I just wished they had gone about it all differently. Ughhh. Thanks for reading. TC: $$
You need to nut up or shut up.
I lived in nyc like that for 3 years. 800/m is a good rate, one way to cope might be to accept that you’re living in nyc for less than many and are possibly getting a little more to work with as a result. Interpersonally I get that being ganged up on is really not gracious.
800 per room seems cheap for NYC
Be wise, ignore now and you can bring it up later when you have cooled off. And your self worth can’t be defined by someone’s comment. Grow thick skin, will serve you well in life.
Move out and get your own place
Rent a different place if possible
Don’t take it personal
Renting/subletting is a business arrangement. Do not make assumptions about things like if your contribution to electricity will change in the winter vs summer; discuss it with the right people so there are no sudden surprises.
Never help out a poor people without charge. They always complain you didn't do more later
You need to handle these situations as soon as they arise. If someone is talking to you with disrespect never let it marinate later, say something! Just try not to overthink it at this point and let it be.