For the longest time I tried not to judge people who were broke and living paycheck to paycheck, but recently I realized I've lost so many friends because they asked for financial assistance and I declined. Every time I refused they acted like I was being an asshole, despite me reminding them I don't have a job, and have no family to depend on if I fall on hard times myself. Some of these pricks came from rich families that refused to give them any money, all had families that would at least give them a place to sleep for free. I tried to suggest ways to get their finances in order, stop wasting money on cars, cigarettes, sell stuff that isn't needed to pay of the CC, but none listen, just want a f*cking handout. I'm neither broke nor rich, but I made a lot of sacrifices for what I have. Losers in life will always determine their needs outweigh the needs of others. Best to just avoid these people in the first place.
You are describing people without integrity, not broke people. Can't generalize like that. I guess you never got into a good enough friendship with them by the looks of it, so not much to do there but just move on.
If it's not money you can afford or want to lose, it's perfectly acceptable to say no.
"You worked for Google, you probably have way more money than I do, you need money to get started man, not everyone is as capable as you to pull yourself up by the bootstraps, you won't even give me a chance!! You're so selfish no wonder no one likes you" etc. I shit you not this is what someone said to me once, maybe with more curse words and name calling.
Someone like that is not really your friend, it’s unpleasant business but your life will be better in the long run without them.
Why do they assume you have money?
Because they know I was once a SWE at G, and once when I paid for dinner they asked how much the check was, I didn't look because it was under $50 so they assumed I was doing well.
get new friends
Most people in the west are broke, so the pool of potential friends has shrunk a lot.
in the united states? I don’t find that to be the case in California
There are many ways to borrow money without asking friends and family, at least in the US.
They have bad credit, as most broke people do.
I have broke friends and they all have self respect to refuse my offers. Get better friends.
Sounds like these people weren’t really friends. I have friends who work in blue collar jobs and are great people. They struggle, but will only ask for help if they’re desperate. I know several who have gotten close to asking, but they ended up figuring something out. I have acquaintances who are constantly struggling and asking for hand outs. The main difference I see is the latter is in constant victim mode and doing little to personally improve their lives. One guy, while posting on his FB for financial help had the audacity to go off on the idea that people who are doing well financially should put some $ aside in case their “friends” need help. That was before Covid and they’re still posting for hand outs. I helped them out once many years ago and that was it and I’ve distanced myself. They’re not doing much to help themselves.
It's usually wrong, and irritating, to give out alternate ideas when you can't help someone. Just say no,.provide a reason only if needed but don't ever volunteer it, and be done. Giving ideas leads to the loss of friendships, imo
This guy was saying he didn't want to do blue collar work anymore, and he wanted me to cosign a $200k loan so he could flip a house. Said he had bad credit, I said sell your gold, and your 2nd car, then your credit score will go up. Dude has a negative net worth, just took for granted I have good credit, which I do, but I'm not going to throw it away for him. Investing is not a right, it is a privilege you get for being financially responsible.
I mean, if they don't want to learn, you can't teach too. Right?
Bruh, u sound cheap! I am non-tech so have a lower TC than you as a SWE, and don’t mind picking up a $200-300 dollar tab here and there. That was with a TC of $150k in NYC (wasn’t at Google). Loosen up. You can take $$ to your grave.
It wasn't a few hundred dollars, one guy wanted $15k, another wanted me to cosign a $200k loan. Did I mention I'm unemployed? I have no family to depend on. What happens if I hit rock bottom? I can't count on these people who help me, even if they were willing.
Hm… I see where you are coming from now. That’s pretty messed up. My bad.
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Another Indian ranting about stuff no body cares. You all need to go to therapy and not use this app for that. What happened to this app man.
I'm not Indian, and I posted this here because I can't say this in real life without people hating on me for it, since our society shames personal responsibility.
You don't give a shit yet you wasted your Saturday morning posting 2 comments.