Exhausting social interactions
Hey all, Looking to see if anyone else feels this way. I'm a married 30yo, in Seattle for 6+ years, but still feel like I don't have close friends or core group Have tons of friends and groups I hang out with, but the interactions get repetitive and exhausting quickly, and it feels like a chore to keep in touch. I'm Indian, and most of us tend to form groups with our undergrad or grad friends who are in the same city. I haven't found the social energy to look for new groups and activities. The conversations are always about: - layoffs and leetcode - how Seattle is so gloomy - who bought a nice house, and the bad housing market - who went to Hawaii and other expensive destinations - Elon musk - mourning the endless H1B visa drama, while enjoying being chained to it - how parents are aging back home, but we will figure that out someday Instead, I wish I had friends who discussed their worries and concerns, their financial, professional and personal problems and problems. Basically, just be vulnerable and let me be the same way! Perhaps it's just because we are older now, and people arent the same anymore, everyone has different lifestyles, with very little in common
If you donāt like tech bro culture stop hanging out with them
Op a desi. Who else he gonna hang out with!
Meet some nice white or asian people at the bookstore, cycling meet, tough mudder, climbing gym, KQED donation drive, food bank, dog park, idk. I guess that would involve getting out into the broader community but I believe in OP.
This is the same thing everywhere regardless of city/age/nationality
Yup, with women too. Went on a wine tasting this weekend with some girls and they only talked about product management/TC/NW/what tech stacks are best bla bla. I wanted to off myself the entire time.
Wine tasting is a pretentious activity. Who else do you expect to meet!
Where did you find groups?
These days people make groups based on TC. try posting here and form a new TC based group
It is not these days. It has been there since the beginning of time. It is written in Kautaliya's book too. How many friends do u help on day to day basis? By help I mean financially or physically not just talks or listening to their stories
OP needs to be enlightened.
You cant really get beyond the things youāre saying people talk about without being like super good friends from back ages ago that did everything together. Boat has sailed on that
Yeah why does that happen? It sucks
I think "ages ago" is hyperbole but I do agree these aren't things you talk about with acquaintances
What r u exactly asking for? Layoffs is their worriy so u want them to come up with a new worry to keep u entertained? Housing is part of financial planning and u cant find anyone kore vulnerable than h1b holders Do they ask u to meet then on gun point? In that note I too want people to post quality content rather than their stupid self created problems
They're tired of superficial relationships. It's understandable.
Nah, find things you like to do and the people will come. Fir me itās wine tasting in Napa. Up in Seattle, there is amazing scenery, wildlife, Outdoors. You can bike, hike, run, basically break away from your norm.
You just need a girlfriend/boyfriend
Perhaps try to open up the conversation yourself and see what happens with this group? Or focus on your immediate family and do things you enjoy instead of hanging out with them a few weekends.
You lost me at married and Seattle
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Same. Have kids?