I find people and conversations boring. Even with people I care and love - my parents, siblings, grandparents I cannot hold on speaking to them for more than a few minutes and just get uncomfortable. With new people or dates, It gets boring after an hour. I do like to hang out with friends for not more than an hour for drinks or watch a soccer game or to go on an activity. But, I hate to listen or speak about our problems or lives in general. I want to become more social and empathetic and engaging. Suggestions? 6 - 265k, Lcol
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Net pay? As in after taxes?
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Sounds like a personal problem. I hate to say therapy but it can’t hurt.
Yeah, I plan to try
Do you want to be social just for the sake of it? - then don’t. Do what you enjoy instead of wasting your energy. Being an extrovert is too hyped. Some folks are loners and that is compeltely okay too. If you want to be social to really get to know people, get better with communication etc - try going through some podcasts, or meet people with planned agenda (meaning go specially to meet someone to watch a sport together and then talk about that. Or if you like watching movies, go for a specific movie where you can talk about that topic later. Small steps and then you can dwelve into more engaging empathetic conversations)
I want to be more responsive and communicate emotions better
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If you only care about yourself others are gonna sound boring, no way around that. Either practice pretending to be interested in others and hope eventually you start believing it, or become a hermit
What makes everything so boring? You hate knowing stuff about everyone that is personal? Or you just hate wasting your time and energy with others and prefer to keep to yourself? To be empathetic requires you to want to listen and understand the other person, which you can't if you have no interest to engage with people.
I feel conversations don’t go anywhere and there is no point in having them. People have their routine. I have mine. They have their interests and I have mine. Common interests can be discussed for a short while but I cannot take it any forward and just cut ties with a new person. With family, I care for them truly but there is nothing interesting to talk about. I have my problems and they have theirs. Try to help each other and it all goes by in an hour. I am not someone who speaks if there is nothing to speak about. A very bad conversationalist, I believe
Are you able to watch a 2 hours movie?
Good question Not really. Unless it is a thriller or mystery
Also OP I think u have depression
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