I learnt a lot through the AMA, so sharing my learnings from what was posted there. https://www.teamblind.com/post/Cheated-on-husband---AMA---closed-BVLYWAsd Tl;Dr for those with a lot of questions. 1. She is 42+ and has kids. The one she cheated with was her boss and all are indian (wife, husband and sidekick). TCs of sidekick and wife similar 400k, and husband likely around 2m. She was with husband for 24 years and married for 20 years. 2. She was introduced to the wife of the sideman, they were planning a divorce. The sideman said that wife should tell husband after they got physically close. So she told and obviously that led to her divorce, but then when she started meeting the sideman, he got cold feet and went back to his wife. 3. The sideman and his wife are together now. The cheating wife and husband are split/divorced, she didn't get anything in the alimony, and she has also to timeshare her kid. 4. sex with sideman was not great, but because she loved him the sex was good. 5. She is not regretting the relationship. she does feel sorry for her husband. 6. Her husband is now married to someone else. 7. She is single and soul searching. Tl;dr for men Make sure you check on your wife. Sex is not the only thing they want, they want your time, your care and affection, your attention. Hold her hand, talk to her and give her a larger slice of time. Keep dating them. Otherwise she will find that in some other creep looking for short term fun and then render your life waste.
It is both husband and wife's fault. Who breaks up a relationship after 20 years of marriage? It is necessary for both to understand the basic principle of relationship There are 100 reasons to leave a person, but one reason is enough to choose the same person again and again over all.
Sorry princess, cheating is one of the things that do break a 20 years relationship. It breaks a family too.
Cheating is the only problem. 2M didn’t hold her. I don’t know why people love DIVORCE??? In spirituality, it is considered a SIN because his wife left him after 20 years of being together. His soul was attached to her and she forgot everything. His fault was that he was busy with his career and building wealth. Women should understand a few things. Women won't be allowed to participate in a war. Courage and power are not the focus. God did not create them to fight like men in war. Similarly, men are not capable of giving birth to children. That is not what they were designed for. She wanted his time and affection. She could have found one reason to fix it instead of spoiling the marriage. I am not a man, but just imagine his feelings. Sometimes, women are also wrong and they need to accept it. Acceptance is also crucial. But many women are rigid and they don’t accept fault. They just tell people that divorce is better option. Divorce is option only for physical abuse. One can find solutions for all issues other than physical abuse.
Disgusting human being. Lover also pathetic.
I love the end of your post.
Wife wants talk all time but they never understand that man wants sex. If they don’t feed man with sex, the way man wants, they might feel unsatisfied too.Man work hard, come home with little time and If all wife wants is another 3-4 hours of talk, man feels super tired. His brain is already tired. He needs sex to be relaxed.
Husband is married? How long ago did the affair happen?
you are asking the person who read the AMA - I am like a human LLM. I will try to answer based on my knowledge from the thread. Divorce happened 18 months ago. They were in affair for 1 year before that. So technically 30 months ago.
Husband remarried in 18 months? Damn! Dude needs to chill and enjoy life a little