Mine I feel is entitled, a bit lazy, doing bare minimum. Gets good grades, but it is wrong for me to want to develop good habits of being curious and giving your best at everything? They are more interested in friends at this age.
Sounds like your kid is already studying well if they’re getting good grades. It’s ok to let them be invested in friends and gain important social skills
I think right now is the time to understand your kid and develop a bond. Do you know why you feel they’re lazy, entitled and doing bare minimum? Are they learning this from someone at home?
I do have a great bond with my child. I am not saying they are lazy entitled in a complaining way, it is just an observation. I have given them a great elementary life, not pushing academics, letting them explore and enjoy what they do. I still ensure she has a good social life. I just feel that curiousity and ambition is missing. Not sure it will develop later in life.
If you have a great bond, tell them anecdotes about successful people and how they achieved success. Also, tell them they can achieve anything they put their mind to. You can bring this up in casual conversation. This is what my Dad did. I still remember this years later and keeps me going in low times. We are Indian and my parents are immigrants.
Don't push it. They get good grades. You can keep trying with some examples or interesting facts etc but this age is like that. What did you do at their age? Whatever they do at this age, doesn't define how they will end up 10 years later. It's okay if that curiosity starts 5 years from now.
This is a good point.
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What are they, like 12? They’re getting good grades. Whatever they’re doing is clearly working. Let them be a kid while they still can be.
13 but I get your point.
I have friends who still tell me tales of beatings as a child. Not sure if it's ideal but hey they got into elite Universities and turned out to be interesting well rounded individuals.
No I am not beating my child!
Is the school too easy or boring? Maybe they don't feel challenged.
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I think they need to find it themselves. Maybe need to fail first to realize.
As a parent, it is hard to see them fail is my problem, But I get it theoritically.
its too late; they learn those traits from parents when they are young. i am guessing you guys are passive not curious people at home?