32 and still a single female!

Microsoft gurra
Jul 7 97 Comments

Any other male or female software engineers out there who are in their 30s and still single? Do you try to date? I definitely want something long term and stable but do find it difficult to juggle work, chores, and meeting new people.

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  • Here is the part not many people talk about. The later you have kids, the less intelligent they will be, no amount of classes will make up for that natural disadvantage.
    Jul 7 19
    • Verizon Media sxSG85
      Yeah I still don’t see no evidence but only personal attacks. Good luck
      Jul 7
    • Oracle marriedM
      Err, what personal attacks, and why do you ask for evidence for obvious and common sense, scientific stuff?
      Jul 7
    • Amazon jQpf16
      completely disagree. stop pissing out unscientific facts.
      Jul 8
    • Amazon a~>z
      By what you say. Elder kid should always be intelligent than younger one. Which is not true in practical world.
      Jul 14
  • Oath Atinlay2
    RIP, your Inbox
    Jul 7 0
  • Cerner pfdP78
    Do you have two arms and two legs?

    If so, you’re single because you’re likely batsh*t crazy. It’s never been easier for women to find a partner.
    Jul 7 15
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      Cerner- I agree it’s the easiest time to “meet people”. Sure. Not so easy to “find a partner”. Especially for girls who are genuinely looking for long term serious relationships. Perhaps even marriage. That doesn’t justify you calling her “crazy” by any means. All I am saying is please don’t be so quick to judge. You don’t have the slightest clue about her journey.
      Jul 7
    • SAP woos
      I am no 'bud', buddy. See what I mean about 'cock-sure opinion'? Every further comment you make only digs things deeper for you, so by this point, you've only proved that your comments shouldn't be taken seriously.

      pinkfloyd, I think we should ignore rhetoric like Cerner's. His opinion is just like most of Blind's, hardly new but with LOADS of unhelpful judgement! Waste of time trying to make sense to people like him.
      Jul 7
    • Facebook / Eng MySpace
      Cerner is an idiot. Moving on...
      Jul 7
    • Cerner pfdP78
      Facts don’t have feelings, bud.
      Jul 7
    • Cisco sleepy_dog
      she's still single bc of low quality people on the market like Cerner. rip
      Jul 12
  • New / Eng alpha9
    Which country you reside?
    Jul 7 7
    • Microsoft gurra
      OP
      Sure?
      Jul 7
    • New / Eng alpha9
      Damm sure
      Jul 7
    • Microsoft gurra
      OP
      Are you still single alpha?
      Jul 7
    • New / Eng alpha9
      Yes i am :)
      Jul 7
    • Bloomberg / IT MagikMike
      Alpha does have a point. Be a bit more open. That helps.
      Jul 12
  • Google Styx
    I was in the same boat. We meet when I was 32, married at 34, now 10 years happily married with 2 kids. Being late is worth the wait sometimes.
    Jul 7 2
    • Google Styx
      But - you have to be proactive and invest time into the process.
      Jul 7
    • This. Being single is much much better than being married to the wrong person.
      Jul 7
  • New / Eng MwSA45
    Been there, eventually found my life partner, got married at 39.
    Jul 7 0
  • Amazon 🍌4Bezos
    You should copy paste this into tinder and include your picture and you’d probably solve your problem pretty quickly
    Jul 7 1
  • eBay / Product blitzer
    The problem that singles face today is that it’s too easy to swipe on someone new and go on a date. But it takes time to get to know a person and most singles don’t have the patience for that or they are too quick to judge. They are stuck in the “I can find someone better” infinite loop. Someone has to be willing to take the risk and invest their time to break the cycle. Dating apps are meant to open doors but it takes effort on both sides to succeed.
    Jul 7 4
    • Amazon echo $?
      ^^This x 1000.

      I know so many people stuck like that.
      Jul 8
    • Microsoft gurra
      OP
      Agreed. Also if dating apps provide one with multiple matches who are interested, the individual may not invest too heavily into making it work with one person. The slightest discomfort will make them break it off because someone "better" is also interested
      Jul 8
    • eBay / Product blitzer
      @gurra, correct. With dating apps, also keep in mind that the profile you are matched with could be:

      1- fake profile, there’s tons of these on match, tinder, bumble etc. I have a theory that dating apps match you to fake profiles to boost user engagement. Think of a slot machine, if you win even just a few cents you keep playing with the hope that you will win bigger. Same game technique here.

      2- profile that is no longer active. Ever msg someone after a match and it’s just *crickets*?

      3- Person you think is replying to your messages is actually a chat bot

      4- active profile but he is a douchebag

      I’d say take every match with a grain of salt. You can weed out 3 and 4 easily, but it’s harder to spot 1 and 2.

      Write down your top 3 qualities in your partner and if a person fits in your first date, pursue to additional dates and ignore the other matches so that you don’t fall victim to infinite loop and dating gamification which is an utter waste of time and energy. And the more time a user stays on the dating app, the more revenue the app makes but ultimately you lose if you don’t have an exit strategy to find a partner and delete the app. All the best.
      Jul 8
    • Neurocrine LC is life
      Good point, @ebay
      Jul 8
  • Amazon jQpf16
    I married at 36 imagine that :). absolutely love the guy to bits and tits... and enjoyed my single life to the T before i met him. I knew what I wanted and wasnt going to settle and he showed up when he had to.
    Jul 8 3
    • Amazon echo $?
      You’re very lucky. Most guys and gals on this app (let alone couples) haven’t been that lucky.
      Jul 8
    • Google Devil
      bits and tits 😀
      Jul 8
    • Amazon fghja
      How did you guys meet?
      Jul 8
  • Microsoft gurra
    OP
    Thanks for the input everyone. I guess if anyone else here, who like me, thought they were *awkward* for being single and looking in their thirities won't feel so alone any more. I do agree that being alone is better then being with an incompatible person.
    Jul 7 0
  • Symantec / Eng 0xdeaf
    Dating is a lot like fishing. There is plenty of fish in the pond, but Until you catch one, you are left holding your rod! But then since op is female, what does she hold on to?
    Jul 7 0
  • New / Eng alpha9
    Wow guys are really giving advice, she is just playing around here on blind
    Jul 7 1
    • Oracle marriedM
      Guess you got a date with her!?
      Jul 7
  • Bloomberg / Eng 7bd92"
    Come on. As a female software engineer, it couldn't be easier (especially if you're in the Bay Area)
    Jul 7 0
  • LinkedIn boringdude
    Let me guess...OP is Indian?
    Jul 7 6
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      What’s with this comment on every Blind post? Lol.

      @boringdude are you Indian ? 😒
      Jul 7
    • Google Devil
      It’s getting boring and name checks out #boringdude :-) thanks pinkfloyd .
      Jul 7
    • Verisk Analytics pinkfloyd🎸
      Haha you’re welcome. Btw @devil high time you start using actual smileys not dots and colons😒
      Jul 7
    • Google Devil
      I am lazy and old honestly 😂 but will try to change. But why you want me to change :-))
      Jul 7
    • LinkedIn ex-fb
      If boringdude guessed it correctly that OP is Indian, then yeah, why not? You should be asking why are these posts from Indians so obvious of their ethnicity!
      Jul 7
  • Microsoft big j
    I'm looking for a long term sugar momma
    Jul 7 0
  • Neurocrine gomv61
    Single at 30. Not trying to date either.
    Jul 7 0
  • Facebook / Eng mturtle
    If you serious about long term relationship, match.com is a good option. Everyone there (at least from my expirence), is honest and wants real relationship. I met my wife on it.

    Tinder is when you want to hook up with a polyamorous DJ named Dakota.
    Jul 7 0
  • New / Eng
    googlc

    New Eng

    PRE
    Accenture
    googlcmore
    Try tinder
    Jul 7 0
  • Salesforce B0h3m1an
    Do your best at work, but hire helpers for chores and go out there and travel the world or something else that is meaningful to your self-love because you won’t be able to enjoy it fully once you find your partner and settle down. Being single in the 30s can be a blessing, there’s so much in the world to explore.
    Jul 8 0
  • New / IT metodo
    Don't work long hours. Spend more time in social circles with friends.
    Work can wait, a little.
    Jul 7 0