I have 2 offers - 1) a hybrid middle office/ front office job in NY - this is an internal transfer. I'm currently in the same role but in Kansas. 2) a buyside job in Kansas at a new firm I'm just miserable in my current role and being in Kansas. Neither role will make me happy ( the first option will make me miserable at work but happier after work. The second option will make me happier at work but miserable after work). Ideally I have an alternative, but these are the current options. Which one should I take? I've consulted a few friends and colleagues, listed out pros and cons, but can't be convinced on either option. I'll develop more transferable skills in the second option but it will take me at least a year to find a new job in NYC. Won't develop as much transferrable skills in the first option so I would have to do another internal transfer in this option later on. TC is $200K at both firms.
You should also consider that 200k goes a much longer way in Kansas vs NYC
Do you have a family? Kids? Single? Dual income? 200 k does go farther in Kansas, but it's by far enough to enjoy NYC if you don't have kids. One way to think about it might be what is your long term goal? If it's to end up in NYC and this job isn't the right fit you could start applying more aggressively but taking this current job to get the move done might be right.
No family, no kids. Still single and searching a partner. Thanks - I appreciate your input!
NP! I would def try out NYC. I'm assuming your company will pay for relo though. Part of it will come down to what aspects of your job you hate right now too... Perhaps some will be minimized but others might grow.
Think quantitatively like how much you would enjoy the city and how much it would tie in to your overall happiness. If you assign numbers (that you're comfortable with) you can end up with a decision that you will trust and not regret later on. Try assigning numbers to each component of your decision in both cases
Will try - thanks!
I would pay to not be in Kansas.
I would be able to save >$20K more by taking the 2nd option so effectively I'm paying to not be in Kansas if I take the first option!
NYC - just do it.
Kansas. Live like king. Take regular weekend trips to cool places.
Lol would rather live in nyc than a king in Kansas
Hahahaha.... I know that small town feels
Given you are single, try NYC. I lived there for a couple of years. You’ll find an active social scene, amazing food and expensive rent. Live in the city (you’ll pay more in rent, but a short commute = more social time), near-ish to work, ditch your car. 200K won’t go as far in NYC, so be sure to go a realistic budget so you know what you can afford in rent and still allow you to have a social life/travel. Everything costs more in NYC. If you feel pulled to stay in Kansas, the upside there is you can save a ton of money. Your money will go further, but you will continue to have the same location unhappiness. If you hate NYC, you can always move again.
Where'd you move after NYC, and where do you live now?
After NYC we were in the Midwest for 2 years and we are now in Seattle.
Take the buy side job
Try a new City and get out your comfort zone. Just don't come to NYC and become one of those douchebags that move to NYC and call the cops for people BBQing and ish. If you're truly a boring person then stay in Kansas, we have enough of those here
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You might be right! But I regret a lot of the career decisions I made previously so I wanted to consult fellow Blinders (who are usually thoughtful)