Seeking suggestions from preferably married people on blind. I am planning to switch jobs and have offer from one of the FANG. However I also want to be pregnant now and have baby but from career perspective I am delaying it. The visa transfer might take long time and then I am not sure if I should get pregnant right after joining new company. Already 31, not sure if I should just go for it or wait till I join new company and build rapport. Grammar maniacs and Self claiming communication experts: Pardon for my writing skills and English. Still learning since it’s not my first language TC-135k (to avoid GTFO spamming) Edit: would appreciate if mothers working in tech can share there experiences
Not a married person. But here's my suggestion. If it is: > Google: I'd take it. > Facebook and Netflix: Too competitive and will suck the life out of you. > Amazon: Highly depends on the team and be wary of the managers, PIP and culture > Also use FANG offer to get a competing offer from companies like Microsoft who are known for their WLB. You'd need such a company. Assumptions: * Even if you get pregnant after taking the offer, an year is good enough to build a good rapport * Salary bump * FANG has better maternity benefits than NetApp * FANG might have lesser immigration issues Concerns: * You still to join on a receipt and hope for the best. And if things go down south, have a backup plan. Its unfortunate that you need to plan your personal and professional life, your future kid's life around the most fucked up Visa/Immigration rules. Not sure if this answer helps, but hope everything works out for you.
Will not be joining on receipt. They are ready to wait. Even though have backup plan sounds good but it’s not easy. I am stressing out thinking about it and feel depressed. Sorry don’t want to send negative vibes but just venting it out.
Echoing an important piece: if it’s google, take it. I can’t speak for the other co.s but have heard good things about Goog mat leave, work culture encouraging time away, other benefits. Also — definitely ask your recruiter about May leave benefits no matter the company.
Freeze those eggs, cook em up later
Not sure how that works and if it’s worth
Birth control bailed on me and I got pregnant the same month I joined. I had the babies before my first year and took 5 months off for maternity (plus vacation). Kids hold you back from career and you won't advance your career as fast as kid-less people. This means if you're still at the early stages of your career, you'll have to pay for daycare/nanny and one thousand other kid-related stuff at the time that you still don't make much. Which means minimal saving. We both work at FANG but because we're still at our early career stages, the money we make really just gets vanished by kids' expenses. If I had the option, I would have waited until at least one of us became senior and then had the kids.
Are you sure you want a second kid? You'll be so much more wealthy and less stressed with one.
From my experience: don’t postpone your personal life for work and don’t try to control everything. Just go with the flow...
There’s never a good time to get pregnant. It’s always going to inconvenient for your career. If having kids is important to you, then do it now and trust that the rest of your life will work out somehow.
If you have an offer, take it. After a kid, you are not going to have time to prepare for interviews and change jobs. That might mean staying at NetApp for at least 2-4 more years. You may not be able to leetcode your way into a FAANG. Work for a year or so at the new company, build rapport and then plan kids. Your just 31, you have lots of time. If you do get pregnant in the middle faster than you expect, that's ok, request your husband to pick up some slack and provide you with the support that you need. Also even if it sets back your career a bit, you'll be in a better place when you left off for maternity.
How about your partner?
He is totally supportive on whatever decision I make. Honestly, I am lucky can’t ask for more.
You should stabilize yourself at work for 1-2 years and then start trying having a kid. If you start working and dissappear after 8-9 months it will make you need to restart proving yourself. But its just my opinion, you are still young so no path will be too critical.
New job, building rapport, getting a promo. The list goes on and it never stops. You might never be fully ready for having a kid. Don’t let your professional life govern your personal life.
My heart signals the same but practically I started my career now and I am on visa hence need to think rationally.