Depression: Medicine vs Therapy

Apple tyrion🎲
May 7 22 Comments

My wife has been depressed for a while, she recently talked to her GP.

The GP suggested to start some mild medication but said there are side-effects and possible addiction.

The GP also said that therapy is good but takes a long time to find a good therapist you like and then for it to work.

Anyone gone thru this personally or with a family member, please share the experience.

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  • Yahoo Pointsetta
    Wife is going through exact same. Been doing tons of research. Therapy is great but needs to be augmented with something else. Research clearly shows that regular excercize, a simple brisk walk, like ur trying to catch a bus, for 30 min 3x a day is MUCH more effective than meds. Might want to try that out first, if possible.
    May 7 3
    • Facebook / Eng lkj630
      Lol. You're right! Now everyone's fixed 🙄
      May 7
    • Apple tyrion🎲
      OP
      She is regular in walk/zumba, but when she is depressed she does not like to do it, I have to push her, but at times she won’t.
      May 8
    • Facebook / Eng lkj630
      Yeah, telling a depressed person to "just" exercise more or "just" get out of the house more is ignoring the problem. The issue is that they can't. Because depressed. Exercise and all can help sustain long term recovery from depression, but it is very rarely a solution on its own for major depressive disorder.
      May 8
  • Facebook gluteus
    If she truly suffers from depression then the best results will come from a combination of medication and therapy. I have depression and have tried all combinations. Without medication it would have ended my relationship
    May 7 0
  • Microsoft
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    The meds (Eg SSRIs) are addictive in the sense that you’ll be physically dependent, but they aren’t the sort of drug that you’d feel you have to take to get high, only that there are withdrawal effects

    Watch this video https://youtu.be/JuQgJxYriYI about meds and why you should try them

    Also this major study (biggest comparative study ever) https://reader.elsevier.com/reader/sd/pii/S0140673617328027?token=4D1CA687E1DEC3B60473071A41B54364A9E0790D28A8C280E33FA66F1207146F746887C00D31C81B891EF1F9C07A7C04
    May 7 0
  • Uber / Eng ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°
    Best outcomes are a combination of drugs and therapy. GP was minimally helpful, but I found a psychiatrist for better drug management and a therapist for working in depression and anxiety.
    May 7 0
  • Intel Riso4ever
    Wife had some depression and self loathing. Turns out for her it was a lack of either vitamin b or folic acid. Some people can only absorb certain forms of them well, and they are typically more expensive (she uses pure brand supplements). After taking them for a few weeks, her depressive thoughts disappeared, it was quite amazing. These are easy low risk things to try before going to any significant drugs. Other OTC supplements to consider are 5HTP and Ashwaganda, which have evidence of improving mood/depression.
    May 7 1
    • Microsoft
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      This. I highly recommend getting a blood test for B vitamin levels, and thyroid hormone, before starting medications, only because these tests are so cheap.
      May 7
  • Facebook / Eng lkj630
    Medication+therapy.
    Medication often provides the breathing room to begin to dig in in therapy. Most major depression is chemical, but is exasperated by poor life skills. Medication will help a ton, but learning the needed coping skills is pretty important too.

    Something that a lot of people trip up on, is that taking medication is not an immediate magic fix. It can take up to 8 weeks for the medication to take effect - and doses are often increased slowly to make sure there are no serious side effects. Often you'll have to try multiple medications - there's no clear way to tell which one will work, other than testing then out. This whole process can be really demotivating (why isn't it working!), So it's really important to support her along the way.

    The addictive meds are generally for anxiety (benzos), not depression. You do need to taper off the medication though, because otherwise there can be bad side effects - but it's not a physical craving. No one wakes up in the morning and is like, omg, I'd blow someone for an ssri or two.
    May 7 0
  • GM Financial / IT Epiyon
    Guys, I absolutely DO NOT discount the viability of the 2 solutions cited by OP, but I found a more practical approach most effective for me.

    I didn't try any drugs, but therapy did teach me how to reflect and be a bit more objective.

    A dietician showed me I was feeding myself complete shit.
    A personal trainer showed me how much better it is to MOVE than be sedentary.

    And sleeping...well, that's the last piece of the puzzle, I think.

    Some folks absolutely need medication and/or therapy--no doubt about it.

    But transforming your lifestyle can cure more maladies than one might believe.
    May 7 0
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    My wife has been depressed for the last 6 years. Has been ups
    and downs and really tough, but be strong cause there’s hope. It’s a chemical problem, so medicines have to be there. It’s risky not to take, depends on the case/state. Medicines act differently on different people, so there’s a lot o trial/error. Doctors can’t predict that. Try help her as much as possible at home, giving her some peace
    of mind. Stimulate her to do exercises and therapy also helps a lot. Also try to talk more to each other and do more stuff together (trips, dining, dating, sex). HAVE OTHER GOOD FRIENDS. And have schedule, for sleeping, waking up, working out, studying, ... All the best to you guys. God bless you with a lot of courage, patience and love for your wife and hope she finds her way out of depression.
    May 7 0
  • Twitter Kbsjt
    Really??? Depressed?? You are living super comphortable life in this country. Take a vocation to some third world country with tiny amount of cache, try to survive there. In third world countries ppl does not care about depression, they do not have time on this bullshit trying to feed themselves!!! You have everything in USA. Sorry that you are depressed being here))))
    May 7 4
    • Apple tyrion🎲
      OP
      I used to think exactly the same when she initially told me about it.

      Overtime I realised the seriousness
      May 8
    • Twitter Onobuv
      So divorce, let her earn her own living. There will be so much changes in her life, and no room for depression. She is poisoning both of you with her life attitude. She is not enjoying what she has, she need to lose it then, to appriciate after.
      May 8
    • Twitter Onobuv
      If you saw movie about 50cent "get rich or die trying", his wife left him when he got wounded and set on pain killers and was in deep depression. She told him she will be back when he stop pitying himself. And he recovered and become 50cent. The moral is that we make our relatives weak by helping them too much. Help is not always a good thing. Support is not always a good thing. People become stronger only when overcoming obstacles themselves, having their own wins. Also, may be she is just tired with you, but cannot say this or too afraid to live by her own.
      May 8
    • Facebook / Eng lkj630
      May 8
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    Sam-e up to 1600 mg/day over the counter. works better for me than SSRIs. (Amazon or Walgreens)

    Also B and D vitamins, as the others mentioned above. Therapy, Research CBT and thought records. Get the app called thought diary. It’s a way to identify what you’re feeling and link it to what you’re thinking about, helps change thinking patterns.
    May 8 0
  • Twitter Kbsjt
    Find a job for her, keep her busy, simple as that.
    May 7 0
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  • Airbnb endofaira
    Staying with blind’s tradition: TC or....
    May 7 0
  • Google TheTick
    I recommend reading up on depression medications first. I can't recommend against them because sometimes they are the only way out.

    You should know that the science is still not advanced enough and your doctor will be going through a trial and error phase to figure out what works; where what you say is the primary source of observations and data for that doctor.
    May 7 0